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JDC

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9. I think it is great you share your concerns about trigger events
Tue Aug 27, 2019, 05:41 PM
Aug 2019

Over the last year, you seem to be the most prolific in sharing your day to day struggles staying sober. It shows you think about it and want to stay on top of it. Proud of you and you should be proud of yourself

Coming up on a year (if the 11 mos is when you finally said enough <or> were told it's enough), which is a long time. Again, Proud of you. Shit ain't easy.

If you have no reason to be at these events, don't go. But most of the events you share sound like there is good reason to be there. Don't get me wrong, your sobriety is number one. If you even feel the slightest apprehension, don't go. But at some point, we have to look at whether or not we are a still a slave to alcohol. Sober or otherwise. When we drank, slave to the booze. Now we don't go places or experience life because we are still a slave to the booze, or the ghost of it.

If I see a theme in your posts, it's because I lived that same theme: everything is a trigger. I loved to drink and I did it everywhere I went, everything I did. If I was happy, I drank. Sad, I drank. Angry, celebrating, traveling, camping, holidays - I drank at all of them.

I'll end with this: you seemed to be pretty active when you drank. Was it only because you drank? I'd bet not. People like you and want to be with you. You like people and want to be with them. In fact, I would suggest you and they will like each other more and have more fun when you're sober. That is who you are. Sober you. Not drunk you.

One drunk's opinion, since you asked.

Keep up the good work.

J

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