HomeLatest ThreadsGreatest ThreadsForums & GroupsMy SubscriptionsMy Posts
DU Home » Latest Threads » Forums & Groups » Topics » Health » Mental Health Support (Group) » Are there any other DU'er... » Reply #14

Response to hamsterjill (Original post)

Mon Mar 8, 2021, 12:01 PM

14. If we don't count teens

Then no. I lost both parents at 14. I always heard that if you lose your parent(s) before 18 (one psychiatrist i know said 25) you have permanent emotional damage. True for me, I think, though I do think it's hard to lose a parent whenever it happens.

I will add that I was reasonably fortunate. I didn't end up in an orphanage. I had good friends and family that tried to be supportive but they couldn't replace my parents or the security I felt before I lost my parents.

I am not saying the loss destroyed me, but I know I have more trouble coping with loss, even now, than some of my friends do. And I've never been able to trust that bad things happen to other people, not me. It's funny though, that something that happened decades ago still affects me, but I think we're pretty strongly affected by how we developed when we were young.

Or maybe I'm a wimp. Who knows?

Reply to this post

Back to OP Alert abuse Link to post in-thread

Always highlight: 10 newest replies | Replies posted after I mark a forum
Replies to this discussion thread
Arrow 32 replies Author Time Post
hamsterjill Mar 2021 OP
Laelth Mar 2021 #1
hamsterjill Mar 2021 #3
Laelth Mar 2021 #6
hamsterjill Mar 2021 #8
Laelth Mar 2021 #10
hamsterjill Mar 2021 #15
Karadeniz Mar 2021 #2
hamsterjill Mar 2021 #5
Karadeniz Mar 2021 #28
Sanity Claws Mar 2021 #4
hamsterjill Mar 2021 #7
SheltieLover Mar 2021 #29
TreasonousBastard Mar 2021 #9
hamsterjill Mar 2021 #16
TreasonousBastard Mar 2021 #26
hamsterjill Mar 2021 #27
Historic NY Mar 2021 #11
hamsterjill Mar 2021 #17
Historic NY Mar 2021 #22
No Vested Interest Mar 2021 #30
elleng Mar 2021 #12
hamsterjill Mar 2021 #13
elleng Mar 2021 #18
hamsterjill Mar 2021 #20
LineReply If we don't count teens
Laurelin Mar 2021 #14
hamsterjill Mar 2021 #19
redstatebluegirl Mar 2021 #21
hamsterjill Mar 2021 #23
IbogaProject Mar 2021 #24
hamsterjill Mar 2021 #25
SheltieLover Mar 2021 #31
hamsterjill Mar 2021 #32
Please login to view edit histories.