Anyone here ever NOT be able to get over a lost love?

[Tobin S.]

3. The solution to your problem may not be all that complicated

You want a nice guy, but for some reason you always end up with abusive losers. To me that's an indication that you don't know how to spot a good guy. You have to look a little harder for us. We're probably more understated than the kind of guy who usually catches your eye.

My wife had the same problem that you do. One day she was hanging out with a guy friend of hers who is a good guy and she was having such a good time that she thought, "I want a nice guy like that." That guy was gay so she looked around and ran across me. We've been together for almost three years now and we have a good, loving marriage.

If you run across any men who you find kind of boring but otherwise could be attracted to, take the time to investigate. The good guys sometimes don't show you everything on the first go around. The more you get to know them the better they get, not the opposite.