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libodem

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5. I have tended to be obcessive

Reply to BlancheSplanchnik (Original post)

Fri Jul 5, 2013, 11:06 AM

Jul 2013

When I really liked somebody. I have a little book around here called 'How to break your addiction to another Person'.
It is good. It goes back to our mother/child bonding and how we desire a return to that safe cocoon. It talks about 'infant' time and how it feels to be an infant crying, waiting for the return of the other. With no sense of time it feels like each moment is an eternity to the infant. We return to that desperate state when we lose a love. Nothing will calm the craving until the person returns. Thus the obcessing. It is very comparable to substance addiction. The book has tips on repairing your psyche and how not to go back. I recommend it.

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Anyone here ever NOT be able to get over a lost love? [View all] BlancheSplanchnik Jun 2013 OP

"Mama said there would be days like this..." kickysnana Jun 2013 #1

thank you kickysnana BlancheSplanchnik Jun 2013 #2

The solution to your problem may not be all that complicated Tobin S. Jun 2013 #3

yeah...I have absolutely declared that I will be open to nice guys BlancheSplanchnik Jun 2013 #4

I have tended to be obcessive libodem Jul 2013 #5

yeah..that's a good one. BlancheSplanchnik Jul 2013 #8

I did have one around here libodem Jul 2013 #9

'tis. BlancheSplanchnik Jul 2013 #10

If there were good 100 men in a room libodem Jul 2013 #11

I'm going to AlAnon to learn how to have r-hips with non-alkies. BlancheSplanchnik Jul 2013 #12

You're going to have to work through the five stages of grief Fumesucker Jul 2013 #6

yeah... BlancheSplanchnik Jul 2013 #7