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Feral Child

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20. I don't mean to be negative

Reply to angstlessk (Reply #13)

Thu Mar 6, 2014, 11:13 AM

Mar 2014

but you're thinking in the wrong direction.

Worrying about what happens after you escape will delay escaping. It's a deflection that keeps you from taking action.

The hardest part of leaving a bad domestic situation is actually leaving. The co-dependency is self-defeating and you need to get out right now!

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The man I live with has become a MONSTER [View all] angstlessk Mar 2014 OP

I hope you go to a shelter tonight if you can get away. ZombieHorde Mar 2014 #1

Agreed and leave as soon as safely possible MindMover Mar 2014 #3

My 'good life' would be in a cloister nunery... angstlessk Mar 2014 #5

Ya know about 20 years ago..I did go to a women's shelter because of him angstlessk Mar 2014 #7

He also needs help, ZombieHorde Mar 2014 #10

From what you said in this post and your other one, JoeyT Mar 2014 #2

I have saved all the women's shelters in Detroit angstlessk Mar 2014 #4

The homeless shelter I volunteered for A Little Weird Mar 2014 #12

Excellent and pertinent information, ALW. Feral Child Mar 2014 #19

There is nothing you can do about the man you live with. Hell Hath No Fury Mar 2014 #6

It is an emergency,..thanks for saying that.. angstlessk Mar 2014 #8

It is an emergency. Hell Hath No Fury Mar 2014 #11

Thank you...he is up...so I will wait till tomorrow angstlessk Mar 2014 #14

But an emergency when he is not here.. angstlessk Mar 2014 #9

Ya know I don't hate him..I just wish he were not a monster angstlessk Mar 2014 #13

You shouldn't have to go through this A Little Weird Mar 2014 #16

None of this allocation on your part should be necessary, elleng Mar 2014 #17

Don't make any decisions or commitments about dividing assets right now. winter is coming Mar 2014 #18

I don't mean to be negative Feral Child Mar 2014 #20

Leave immediately. Not later. Not tomorrow. Not in a week. Now. Gravitycollapse Mar 2014 #15

As a former DV counselor, I can tell you that this is not a matter of IF he will do something... it secondwind Mar 2014 #21

I hope you've gotten away from this terrible situation. Terra Alta Mar 2014 #22