How to address issues very consistent with Avoidant Personally Disorder?

[moriah]

5. I'm a little nervous about "pay to get better" programs not directly with a doc, but....

... I will check it out.

I do participate in Adult Children of Alcoholics -- not to diss on Al-Anon Family Groups, but as an Alateen graduate I found much more of a home in ACA than Al-Anon. The focus in each group is very different -- Al-Anon continues to, despite their mission statement and actual teachings, focus on dealing with active or recovered alcoholics, where ACA focuses on reparenting yourself and getting past those times.

Particularly since my father is dead, and my mother's alcoholism is something that I already know I can't change and just try to love her and know she's not at fault... I am getting far more benefit from ACA's focus on acknowledging the past, looking at yourself, and working on improving yourself, regardless of your relationship or lack thereof with your family.