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mopinko

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50. getting them to be adults is so much harder than i thought.

Thu Apr 12, 2018, 03:05 PM

Apr 2018

2 sons still in that place, both due to being not neurotypical.
the hard thing is knowing just how damaging it is TO THEM to carry that shit around in adult life. personally, i think you become an adult when you forgive your parents, and not until then.
forgave my mom long ago, but didnt forgive my dad till i was 60. most of my sibs havent and never will forgive him. but it was such a weight off my heart.

sorry to hear about your son. if only moms could be the perfect beings our children feel entitled to.

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tears of joy today. [View all] mopinko Apr 2018 OP

That's wonderful news, mop! elleng Apr 2018 #1

yes it is. had to share it w my friends here. mopinko Apr 2018 #3

Thanks for doing that, mopinko. calimary Apr 2018 #11

M - I can feel your joy in your words. woodsprite Apr 2018 #2

This is great news Mo :) steve2470 Apr 2018 #4

Great news when you can keep Family close... pbmus Apr 2018 #5

jus shed a tear of joy for you rurallib Apr 2018 #6

So very, very happy for you! fierywoman Apr 2018 #8

+1. Happy for you. :) Bernardo de La Paz Apr 2018 #7

fixed that. thanks. mopinko Apr 2018 #16

*huge hug* So happy this has happened for the two of you! GreenPartyVoter Apr 2018 #9

Mo....how joyful the news! irisblue Apr 2018 #10

Good news. gademocrat7 Apr 2018 #12

Aww. Thank you for sharing that. sandensea Apr 2018 #13

happy for you, mopinko Skittles Apr 2018 #14

A wonderful gift you just gave one another democrank Apr 2018 #15

There is no love like a mother's love. She'll learn that more and more as time goes by. FailureToCommunicate Apr 2018 #17

i think she got a big dose today. mopinko Apr 2018 #33

Hugs... ehrnst Apr 2018 #18

Big huge hugs to you! lunatica Apr 2018 #19

Amazing story and cilla4progress Apr 2018 #20

Me, too. Scarsdale Apr 2018 #42

Me too True Blue American Apr 2018 #45

Thank you Scarsdale Apr 2018 #51

it is the best feeling. mopinko Apr 2018 #52

I feel for you KrazyinKS Apr 2018 #21

yeah, didnt talk to my siblings from quite a while. mopinko Apr 2018 #25

Dear God True Blue American Apr 2018 #46

luckily mopinko Apr 2018 #47

A mother's love is special. I hope you guys can build from here. And I hope that you can also StevieM Apr 2018 #22

Lose ends just need to be tightened Heartstrings Apr 2018 #23

she promised to unblock me on fb. mopinko Apr 2018 #24

And thats a huge step! Heartstrings Apr 2018 #28

yeah, dont get into arguments on messenger is my big take away. mopinko Apr 2018 #30

Pick your battles...nt Heartstrings Apr 2018 #34

Great News...thank you for sharing with us...!! Stuart G Apr 2018 #26

a couple examples of stuff i am so proud of. mopinko Apr 2018 #27

I feel your joy in your post volstork Apr 2018 #29

So happy for you! Freedomofspeech Apr 2018 #31

thank you all for sharing my joy. mopinko Apr 2018 #32

I'm so happy for you Hekate Apr 2018 #35

What a poignant mix of joy, pride... 3catwoman3 Apr 2018 #36

Glad for you. Happy tears are good. Gives me hope. ancianita Apr 2018 #37

Good for You! dlk Apr 2018 #38

Good for you! Glad you had that opportunity. CaptainTruth Apr 2018 #39

Wonderful, so happy for you both! MLAA Apr 2018 #40

She's proud to be your daughter. You raised her well. mia Apr 2018 #41

i made plenty of mistakes, but mopinko Apr 2018 #43

((((((((((((mopinko)))))))) thank you for sharing this beautiful time with us. niyad Apr 2018 #44

thanks niyad. mopinko Apr 2018 #48

Parenting is so difficult lillypaddle Apr 2018 #49

getting them to be adults is so much harder than i thought. mopinko Apr 2018 #50

So happy for you! PennyK Apr 2018 #53