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Systematic Chaos

(8,601 posts)
Fri Jun 5, 2015, 08:03 PM Jun 2015

News of my death are [View all]

Not exaggerated. Yesterday I died (as posted by his wife), apparently peacefully and in little to no pain, while sleeping.

On Wednesday, Kirk was given a new pain medication script. Since he was in quite a lot of pain for quite a while, he chose to take the last of his hoarded stash of pain pills that he had received nearly two months prior, when discharged from the long term stay Nursing/rehab facility he had been in for months. He had recently also been experiencing more issues with waking up while sleeping, due to problems breathing, caused by sleep apnea. He had just taken a sleep study which confirmed that he needed a bi-pap, but it would take a week or two (at the time) before they would be able to get the results to a doctor, so that he could get a new machine. It's my opinion that, due to the small amount of pain pills that he took, he became so relaxed (from lack of pain) that he was unable to wake up when he stopped breathing while sleeping. I was dozing in a chair nearby, and thought it strange that it was so quiet. However, I was so tired that I ended up falling back to sleep before investigating. It wasn't until I woke up a second time and it was still too quiet. I became alarmed and checked on him. It was too late, he had been dead too long for emergency personnel to revive him.

I have located a recent video and picture of him, peacefully smiling at me a very special smile that he reserved for me alone. The video was regarding a power chair he was going to return, but it's a voice and image that I can keep forever to remember him by. I still don't know what I'm going to do, but I at least have the comfort of knowing that I can likely get assistance with getting him cremated. A friend of ours has already offered to let me stay with him while I get myself stabilized, so my cats and I have a roof when our rent comes due for July. I hope that Kirk has been helpful to people in this thread, and anyone is welcome to link this to any thread where this would be of interest.

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News of my death are [View all] Systematic Chaos Jun 2015 OP
Oh, no. I'm so sorry for your loss. Peace and comfort to you. PeaceNikki Jun 2015 #1
Condolences. n/t FSogol Jun 2015 #2
I am so sorry for your loss .... etherealtruth Jun 2015 #3
I am sorry for your loss Evergreen Emerald Jun 2015 #4
Deepest sympathy malaise Jun 2015 #5
My condolences... giftedgirl77 Jun 2015 #6
RIP, will miss you nadinbrzezinski Jun 2015 #7
I'm so sorry for your loss. Lars39 Jun 2015 #8
My heart is with you and yours,. myrna minx Jun 2015 #9
My deepest sympathies. NanceGreggs Jun 2015 #10
I am so sorry for your loss. LiberalLoner Jun 2015 #11
I am so sorry MissDeeds Jun 2015 #12
... Lilith Rising Jun 2015 #13
so sorry for your loss. sheshe2 Jun 2015 #14
condolences. nt DesertFlower Jun 2015 #15
. hifiguy Jun 2015 #16
((hugs)) Starry Messenger Jun 2015 #17
Damn... WillyT Jun 2015 #18
I am so sorry for you. May you find peace. Fla Dem Jun 2015 #19
I am so very sorry. DawgHouse Jun 2015 #20
We should all be so lucky to have our dearest love next to us when we draw breath no more. FailureToCommunicate Jun 2015 #21
I am so sorry for your loss... magical thyme Jun 2015 #22
... tosh Jun 2015 #23
I'm so sorry to hear this. yewberry Jun 2015 #24
Aww jeez. I'm so sorry. Hassin Bin Sober Jun 2015 #25
So so sorry passiveporcupine Jun 2015 #26
I am sorry for your loss Liberal_in_LA Jun 2015 #27
My condolences Half-Century Man Jun 2015 #28
My deepest sympathies. I'm so sorry for your loss. Ilsa Jun 2015 #29
Condolences to you and all who loved him. Gormy Cuss Jun 2015 #30
I'm so sorry for your loss. mountain grammy Jun 2015 #31
My sincere condolences. Blue_In_AK Jun 2015 #32
He shall be missed... ScreamingMeemie Jun 2015 #33
My condolences denbot Jun 2015 #34
*** 99Forever Jun 2015 #35
I'm so sorry for your loss cal04 Jun 2015 #36
so very sorry eom catrose Jun 2015 #37
I'm so terribly sorry for your loss. stage left Jun 2015 #38
So very sorry BrotherIvan Jun 2015 #39
I'm so sorry for your loss, Mrs SC Hekate Jun 2015 #40
So sorry for your loss. justgamma Jun 2015 #41
He's not gone... He's just on the other side of the tall grass. cherokeeprogressive Jun 2015 #42
... Quackers Jun 2015 #43
I am so sorry that you lost your husband. Raine1967 Jun 2015 #44
I am so sorry you have lost your husband, this is a hard thing to deal with. sabrina 1 Jun 2015 #45
I'm so sorry for your loss KT2000 Jun 2015 #46
Oh no. So very sorry for your loss. cyberswede Jun 2015 #47
So very sorry for your loss. greatlaurel Jun 2015 #48
I am so saddened to hear this... MrMickeysMom Jun 2015 #49
Wishes of peace Thespian2 Jun 2015 #50
So very sorry. n/t Bossy Monkey Jun 2015 #51
He was a good bloke. My condolences to you and yr family.... Violet_Crumble Jun 2015 #52
I am so sorry for your loss. panader0 Jun 2015 #53
I'm so sorry kcr Jun 2015 #54
Although I did not know your Husband Stellar Jun 2015 #55
((Systematic Chaos)) blm Jun 2015 #56
Oh no ... I was wondering where Kirk was. Such a good friend auntAgonist Jun 2015 #57
Terrible news. blackspade Jun 2015 #58
i'm so sorry for your loss. barbtries Jun 2015 #59
Sorry for your loss. 47of74 Jun 2015 #60
this news came as a complete surprise to me this morning lavenderdiva Jun 2015 #61
My deepest sympathy Worried senior Jun 2015 #62
Please accept my condolences. n/t lumberjack_jeff Jun 2015 #63
Will be missed RIP Person 2713 Jun 2015 #64
requiescat in pace, kirk, and may there be peace and comfort for all your loved ones. niyad Jun 2015 #65
Our deepest condolences so sorry Peacetrain Jun 2015 #66
My deepest condolences, that is terrible to hear. Moostache Jun 2015 #67
So sorry to hear this. My deepest condolences. calimary Jun 2015 #68
I've watched a lot of death go by in others and have learned to appreciate when they jtuck004 Jun 2015 #69
........ daleanime Jun 2015 #70
... AuntPatsy Jun 2015 #71
I am so sorry to hear this. n/t murielm99 Jun 2015 #72
You have my deepest sympathies. nt jschurchin Jun 2015 #73
I am so sorry. that is small comfort but know its true. I roguevalley Jun 2015 #74
I'm so very sorry. Arugula Latte Jun 2015 #75
My best to his family and friends. rhett o rick Jun 2015 #76
So sorry for your loss. madamvlb Jun 2015 #77
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