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wnylib

(21,432 posts)

18. I lost a close relative the same way.

Reply to The Polack MSgt (Original post)

Tue Apr 6, 2021, 09:20 PM

Apr 2021

I blamed myself for not calling, for not doing more. Sometimes it is just beyond our control. I spoke with a counselor who said that friends and relatives often feel responsible. There are support groups for the friends and relatives of suicides. They might not be meeting in person these days, but you can probably find a group online. It helps to share your loss with people who have been through it.

So sorry that you have lost him and others. Wishing you consolation and help with coping and healing.

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I just heard that a friend of mine, an Airman I deployed to Afghanistan with back in 02 [View all] The Polack MSgt Apr 2021 OP

... alwaysinasnit Apr 2021 #1

This is very saddening... am wondering if the pandemic only made things worse for him.. secondwind Apr 2021 #2

... Docreed2003 Apr 2021 #3

((TPM)) blm Apr 2021 #4

I'm so sorry. Scrivener7 Apr 2021 #5

I had a battle buddy kill himself right out of basic training ColinC Apr 2021 #6

Sorry for your loss. Suicide is a terrible thing. CentralMass Apr 2021 #7

So very sad; my condolences to you and his family. nt babylonsister Apr 2021 #8

I am so sorry for you and all those who loved Wes, and for the pain Tanuki Apr 2021 #9

I am so sorry, Sarge. Diamond_Dog Apr 2021 #10

. AwakeAtLast Apr 2021 #11

Hang in there MSgt. NoMoreRepugs Apr 2021 #12

May he be at peace. I am so very sorry for your loss. niyad Apr 2021 #13

... MiHale Apr 2021 #14

So sorry for your loss... NHvet Apr 2021 #15

I am truly sorry markie Apr 2021 #16

I am sorry for your loss. nt Gore1FL Apr 2021 #17

I lost a close relative the same way. wnylib Apr 2021 #18

Oh jeez!... I'm so so sorry man. sdfernando Apr 2021 #19

I'm so sorry MSgt. TomSlick Apr 2021 #20

I'm so sorry. Ilsa Apr 2021 #21

🕯️ irisblue Apr 2021 #22

Given the effects of warfare, I'd have a really difficult time sending people to a war zone. Re: Karadeniz Apr 2021 #23

Thinking of you and many Wes Rest In Peace. MLAA Apr 2021 #24

So sad, sorry for your loss of your friend. FuzzyRabbit Apr 2021 #25

I'm so sorry. BobTheSubgenius Apr 2021 #26

Jeezus, man Mr. Scorpio Apr 2021 #27

Sorry for your loss... IrishAfricanAmerican Apr 2021 #28

Before we ask our citizens in uniform to put their lives on the line ... Martin Eden Apr 2021 #29

I can't remember who said this, but I find it to be a great perspective. BobTheSubgenius Apr 2021 #33

Especially not ... Martin Eden Apr 2021 #35

Yeah, it does tug the exceptionalism downward a tad, doesn't it? BobTheSubgenius Apr 2021 #36

I am so sorry UpInArms Apr 2021 #30

I'm sorry Top. DashOneBravo Apr 2021 #31

Thank you all for the kind words and thoughts, sorry for the radio silence up to now The Polack MSgt Apr 2021 #32

I am so sorry. Please know you didn't cause this. Maraya1969 Apr 2021 #34

So sorry for your loss, MarineCombatEngineer Apr 2021 #37