It isn't spirituality that is the issue. Each of us are unique individuals, our discoveries, our thoughts, and our perceptions. It is Religion that is the flaw, anything that seeks to mandate, control and manipulate becomes repulsive. It is most irritating that though I read and study the same Book as the "hard core", their summary is always 180 Degrees from mine.
Maslows hierarchy about belonging, and I just plain don't fit.
Marty Luther knew about "hard core" in his time also. Only the faces have changed, the goals remain the same.. Hopefully we aren't as squashed today as he surely felt, still his writings are filled with humor. When all else fails, laugh.
I am a Christian, though spent decades trying to be anything but!. My greatest flaws are the most common: vanity and this idea I have some exclusive right to be independent. Which of course led to the hardest thing ever faced, humility, my ears just burned red hot. What was thought would leave me weak, instead did the opposite. Shocking!
What some don't see is that each form of self-righteousness, no matter what side has the same effect of "belittling" someone else based on one's person belief of what is correct. I am one who does rescue turtles, because perhaps the BEST I can do is care about "the least among us". Still I repeatedly wonder after I have thrown my car into Park, and am out the door to carry some turtle in the direction his head is facing, WHAT if some gust of wind turned him around?
Enjoy your journey. You will arrive exactly where you are supposed to. Ask the guy who fell overboard, and darned if he still didn't end up where he was meant to go.