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southerncrone

(5,506 posts)
14. You most likely can't change your husband.
Fri Sep 28, 2012, 01:02 AM
Sep 2012

I know....it sux. Mine is the same way. A friend who is a few yrs older than me said after 50 they become grumpy old men. That includes becoming uber selfish. Mine seems to do whatever he wants, too, regardless of how it effects others. I'm in too deep (divorce would be financial suicide for both) so I just try to not make waves & do the best I can. I realize it is a CONTROL thing w/these old guys who fear they aren't "worthy" anymore, so they just try to control everyone & everything around them. Unfortunately that is us. Is he retired? It may be another form of "entertainment" for him.

But, we can't change another person (unless THEY decide to change on their own--it'll have to be HIS idea), we can only change how we REACT to a situation. Do not allow his actions to bring out negativity in you. Ask the angels (especially Rapheal) to cleanse you of these angry & negative feelings. They are only hurting you. Meditate. Rise above it. You will be OK.

I am so frustrated and angry... [View all] murielm99 Sep 2012 OP
I have empathy and I don't... sybster1000 Sep 2012 #1
It is not exactly a new bathroom. murielm99 Sep 2012 #3
I think your real upset has to do with your relationship with your husband magical thyme Sep 2012 #2
You would be surprised how much I do count my blessings. murielm99 Sep 2012 #6
please don't feel you can't ask for yourself from ASAH magical thyme Sep 2012 #11
You'd better ask us for help! :) Fire Walk With Me Sep 2012 #13
(((HUG)))) Howler Sep 2012 #4
Thank you. n/t murielm99 Sep 2012 #5
I hope that all this straightens out in a hurry for you. LaurenG Sep 2012 #7
Crap is crap and it's all relative. Kookaburra Sep 2012 #8
Oh man! I am sorry! davsand Sep 2012 #9
Sending hugs, sympathy and ALL THINGS FIXED Tumbulu Sep 2012 #10
Isn't it funny how things go in cycles? Digit Sep 2012 #12
You most likely can't change your husband. southerncrone Sep 2012 #14
Did he actually cancel the old card? SheilaT Sep 2012 #15
Post removed Post removed Sep 2012 #16
sorry I just saw this Celebration Sep 2012 #17
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