How do you tell your friends the truth of why you don't visit anymore?

[icymist]

9. Hi Tsiyu,

It sounds to me from your description above, that you have seem to take on the role of therapist to your friends here. I have a few questions for you: What is the relation of the people here to you? Later in the thread you refer to them as 'the group'. Does the group have a history together? (i.e. artist club? music group? coven?) It seems to me that the members of the group have learned to trust in your listening ability. This is a great part of therapy as applied by a psychologist, and you seem to be experiencing some form of burn-out (stress) from doing this for your loved ones over time. You have a bunch of your own problems and suddenly find yourself with no one available to help out, either physically, mentally, or spiritually. Painting and playing guitar are great stress relievers, but sometimes a little more is necessary such as another who is good at listening to help you. Maybe something as simple as a shoulder to cry on at times. It's not easy to be a Matron to a group. Try explaining to the members of your group that your car is wearing out and can't make it all the way out there as it used to in the past. Gently remind them that you have a cozy couch and a warm cup of tea in your house and that they are welcomed to come over. Most of all, be gentle to yourself and don't forget to allow 'me' time in your schedule. I hope this helps. Bright Blessings and Best Witches, icymist.