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Response to seabeyond (Reply #11)

Tue Jan 22, 2013, 02:22 PM

24. It's a section in the article.

The friend-zone phenomenon, as men see it, appears alongside a quid-pro-quo-attitude in men: If you are nice, you are entitled to sex.

My point was that there's no short-cut: If a woman is not interested in you, you cannot "trade" your way into a romance.
Drop your expectational attitude, be patient and treat her like a human being with feelings, not like a future opportunity for sex. (-> be a nice guy, this time for real)
Maybe it will work, most likely it won't, but at least you get away with a few nice moments and maybe you can grow the fuck up emotionally in the mean-time.

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