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Response to redqueen (Reply #25)

Tue Jan 22, 2013, 03:10 PM

29. What I find personally interesting

Given I have a bit of a rough past, is my version of a 'bad boy' would sent any sensible woman not familiar with the 'dark side' right out the door running. I've NEVER understood this crap about 'bad boys'

1) No, they are not 'better' in bed, if a person wants great sex, it takes great communication to start with.
I have a female friend who has been through and done some ugly things in her life. When she got her shit together, she married a wonderful, stable man who loves her unreservedly. He doesn't always understand but he always tries. Their relationship is healthy in all areas. She and I talk about the bad boy perception and kind of laugh.

2) Life with any mal-adjusted person is full of unnecessary drama and a good deal of hurt.

The idea that women in general 'like' this just pisses me off. It's bullshit. Since I work with mostly women, anecdotally I can say that women can't stand assholes. I agree with your assessment of exciting or confident rather than 'bad'

The 'nice guy' whining is so annoying. I've read a few articles and responses posted on this blog or that one this topic, and these 'nice guys' are NOT nice; they are typical sexually entitled males who didn't get what they wanted. Hey whiny nice guys; here is a secret--it's not any woman's job to make sure you're happy, or confident or loved. Or laid.


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