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MADem

(135,425 posts)
19. The playing field is being leveled....! It's a slow process, but it is happening....
Sun Aug 25, 2013, 04:24 PM
Aug 2013

"Manscaping" is mandatory for the young, it seems--a 22 year old kid with a nickname of "Sweater Man" isn't going to get a date these days (not that people "date" all that much anymore). Unibrow? Fuggedaboudit! Off to the waxing parlor with you! And no abs? Go to the back of the line!

And who knew? Boys can get anorexia too...

http://dailynightly.nbcnews.com/_news/2012/02/22/10477185-boys-dying-to-be-thin-the-new-face-of-anorexia?lite

Okemos, Mich.: Susan Barry, 60, spends every day wishing she had known more about male anorexia when her son, TJ Warschefsky, was still alive. He died in 2007 at the age of 22 after an eight-year battle with the disease. His heart gave out in the middle of his nightly routine of 1,000 sit-ups. He weighed 78 pounds.
“He didn’t want to be skinny,” Barry said of TJ, who was a star athlete and straight-A student. “He wanted a six pack, he wanted rock hard abs. That’s how it all started.”


As for fashion, a 19 year old young man can spend a fortune to look like he just crawled out from behind a dumpster--that's the age when those smurf hats, boxy baseball caps that look like something Rodney Dangerfield would like, and overpriced sneakers and foolish "name brand" shirts/tees/gear are "must haves." Who "needs" to spend two hundred dollars for a pair of jeans so tight that they will make a lad sing soprano? And then there's the "bling." Bigass diamond earring--for what? Ostentatious ring! And don't get me started on tattoos as ornamentation, or those ghastly grilles--to me, they don't look good (they look like a rich person who never brushed their teeth!). But hey, that's status! That's how these youngsters make themselves into peacocks to attract the young ladies!

And if they don't HAVE, they don't "fit in." If they don't make enough at the part time job, they hint, wheedle, plead because these silly things elevate their standing.

I'd say males are probably still far less "appearance aware" than females, but they are catching up. And when worries about how one looks affect self-esteem, that is never a good thing for any person --it gets in the way of achievement. A little bit of struttin' yer stuff is natural for teens and early 20s, but after awhile, if there's too much of the "trendy clothes" happening--regardless of gender--it just looks a little silly; kind of embarrassing. A mature person of any gender looks best when they are comfortable in their own skin, IMO.
That is the best rant I've read in a while. gollygee Aug 2013 #1
"Real men" equal the kind of men safeinOhio Aug 2013 #2
I actually think women are more critical of their own appearance BainsBane Aug 2013 #3
I used to believe that. redqueen Aug 2013 #6
Curiously, you're taking the word here largely of women... TreasonousBastard Aug 2013 #26
Back in the real world, at the link above, redqueen Aug 2013 #31
One or two small points ismnotwasm Aug 2013 #32
I love that my wife does 'maintenance' for me Bay Boy Aug 2013 #4
Congratulations. redqueen Aug 2013 #5
Huh? Bay Boy Aug 2013 #7
You know perfectly and no subtly in playing your game. seabeyond Aug 2013 #14
I know nothing... Bay Boy Aug 2013 #18
And do you emerge a perfect fantasy for your wife? ismnotwasm Aug 2013 #16
I do my part... Bay Boy Aug 2013 #17
I make my wife get up an hour before me... Bay Boy Aug 2013 #20
I can't speak for her... redqueen Aug 2013 #23
I think most men could give a shit. They'll go along with whatever's popular. MADem Aug 2013 #8
This affects girls and young women to a significant degree. redqueen Aug 2013 #9
Did I suggest -- ever -- that this was "meaningless?" MADem Aug 2013 #11
Why are you talking about fashion? redqueen Aug 2013 #13
Thank you for posting that video. Tuesday Afternoon Aug 2013 #21
The pleasure is all mine, believe me. nt redqueen Aug 2013 #22
You have very valid point ismnotwasm Aug 2013 #15
The playing field is being leveled....! It's a slow process, but it is happening.... MADem Aug 2013 #19
I remember the first time ismnotwasm Aug 2013 #10
THIS MadrasT Aug 2013 #12
... ismnotwasm Aug 2013 #24
Question about a man commenting on a woman’s appearance Jim Lane Aug 2013 #25
Yikes ismnotwasm Aug 2013 #28
That's pretty much what I did. More detail in my response to BainsBane. Jim Lane Aug 2013 #33
Just say you look nice BainsBane Aug 2013 #29
Agreed. It'a definite jerk behavior. Dash87 Aug 2013 #30
I think this is an exception to your point about being controlling. Jim Lane Aug 2013 #34
We need a Martha Argerich School of Beauty BeyondGeography Aug 2013 #27
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