Welcome to DU! The truly grassroots left-of-center political community where regular people, not algorithms, drive the discussions and set the standards. Join the community: Create a free account Support DU (and get rid of ads!): Become a Star Member Latest Breaking News General Discussion The DU Lounge All Forums Issue Forums Culture Forums Alliance Forums Region Forums Support Forums Help & Search

History of Feminism

seabeyond

(110,159 posts)

8. "Doing nothing is, in essence, the same as endorsing it." i had to do the hardest thing in the world

Reply to Gravitycollapse (Reply #4)

Sun Oct 27, 2013, 10:59 PM

Oct 2013

and speak up in a room full of people, with my mom there in front of people she socialized and worked with because if i did not have the courage to speak up, then i was reinforcing the racism. i was allowing it. i might as well have been a racist also if i kept my mouth shut. i didnt want to. it was hard. i hated it. and i did it. cause i could do nothing less, or i was the problem. i agree totally. it is not fun for any of us. that is not the discussion. it is the reality

Edit history

Please sign in to view edit histories.

16 replies

= new reply since forum marked as read

Highlight:

On allies and male feminists [View all] KitSileya Oct 2013 OP

I agree Arcanetrance Oct 2013 #1

You were definitely on my mind when I described men who do all these things. KitSileya Oct 2013 #2

And there it is ismnotwasm Oct 2013 #3

I agree with you, all these excuses they make are just so much smokescreen KitSileya Oct 2013 #10

Men who do nothing are actually complicit in the patriarchy. Gravitycollapse Oct 2013 #4

"Doing nothing is, in essence, the same as endorsing it." i had to do the hardest thing in the world seabeyond Oct 2013 #8

this is no different noamnety Oct 2013 #5

Here's my view as a young man who sincerely wants to help... YoungDemCA Oct 2013 #6

you are right. it is the reality of it. it is hard. and if you do not speak up then you are part seabeyond Oct 2013 #9

I see what you're saying, KitSileya Oct 2013 #11

Oh absolutely YoungDemCA Oct 2013 #14

a very good Op and i could nto agree with you more. i know that when women, especially our young seabeyond Oct 2013 #7

Gender stereotypes and societal pressure to conform to the gender binary is what drives a lot of it. NuclearDem Oct 2013 #12

Here is one example of how allies can use their privilege to fight oppression. redqueen Oct 2013 #13

Most of us would rather be comfortable. YoungDemCA Oct 2013 #15

+1000 smirkymonkey Nov 2013 #16