Question from a good Guy friend of mine

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4. In the end

I don't think there's anything wrong with gendered stuff. I like the differences between the genders. The only problem is the power structure propping up one of them, and the sexist culture that a lot of people are brought up in. If we can work on taking those down, then it will be easier to see even gendered names as positive, I think.

Even gender neutral names carry certain expectations. For some reason, (in my experience at least) people think that when you have a gender neutral name it means you must be a guy.

I mean, your example could just as easily be "go as her, go ask him.", because we also expect different things simply from knowing their pronouns. If we have to weed out gendered names, we'd also have to weed out gendered pronouns to avoid the same expectations. Plus we'd have to restructure the whole language so that "man" was not the default that means "human"... Plus a bunch of other things to make the language more gender neutral. Wouldn't it be better to change the culture that kids are brought up in, so they can appreciate the wonderful differences between people instead of judging them for them?