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Phentex

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11. This has become a major peeve of mine online and in real life...

Mon Jun 15, 2015, 10:43 AM

Jun 2015

It IS dismissive when someone says it because they think I can't distinguish the fact that some problems are more serious than others. Others have retorted that they are able to think about more than one thing at a time. Sometimes people online are just venting. They aren't implying that what they are talking about is more important than hunger or poverty or war. I find it to be a nasty response.

I had someone in real life say this to me and it wasn't even about me. It was about something I told her about. You feel like you can't say anything at all. Like excuse me for bothering you with this conversation.

I'm sorry this happened to you.

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"Stop complaining, Western women - you could be living in Afghanistan or Saudi Arabia!" [View all] YoungDemCA Jun 2015 OP

I agree. SamKnause Jun 2015 #1

Not a specific quote, but a paraphrase of a common talking point YoungDemCA Jun 2015 #2

I have heard that phrase used many times. SamKnause Jun 2015 #4

Other people have it worse, therefore your complaints are invalid. eppur_se_muova Jun 2015 #3

I've had it happen to me here. JTFrog Jun 2015 #5

This has become a major peeve of mine online and in real life... Phentex Jun 2015 #11

It's a common square on the bingo card. Starry Messenger Jun 2015 #6

Since half the population is female, that's showing epic levels of ignorance. n/t freshwest Jun 2015 #17

It smacks of... awoke_in_2003 Jun 2015 #7

It IS offensive. Period. Lilith Rising Jun 2015 #8

Classic RW talking point - they use the very same thing toward LGBTers, the poor, etc. bullwinkle428 Jun 2015 #9

No, you are definitely not the only one etherealtruth Jun 2015 #10

Your not the only one.. AuntPatsy Jun 2015 #12

see also "first world problems" nt geek tragedy Jun 2015 #13

Annoying, a real conversation stopper. betsuni Jun 2015 #14

Thank YOU! smirkymonkey Jun 2015 #15

NOT complaining leads to oppressive cultures such as cited. I'm unwilling to sit down and shut up. freshwest Jun 2015 #16

It is offensive gollygee Jun 2015 #18