And grew up (relatively) sane, thanks to an ex-schoolteacher, ex-Yankee grandmother and my functionally blind, semi-literate (3rd grade education) non-bigot father I read science fiction from the 6th grade, so I am aware people come in LOTS of flavors and that this is something to celebrate and be enjoyed. I've had LOTS of experience walking away from fools and assholes.
In addition, my mother's brother was a glider pilot in WW2. The average survival rate was approximately 2/3 of a mission. He did three And WALKED BACK TO THE FRONT LINES from all three. If he's still alive, he carries shrapnel today. It did not break him and it was obvious, that that was a close thing, WOULD NOT talk about it. As I acquired SOME maturity, I integrated these lessons to the best of my ability. I am enormously grateful for these role models and lessons, although it has made it increasingly difficult to live in today's militaristic, sold culture.