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End of Life Issues

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The_jackalope

(1,660 posts)
Wed Sep 6, 2017, 08:45 PM Sep 2017

She is gone. [View all]

My beloved soulmate, Kathleen Farago May, died today. She was 65 years old, and had been suffering from ovarian cancer for the last five months. In the end the suffering proved too much to bear, especially given that there was no chance of recovery.

Her transition happened as she had wished - peacefully at home, without pain, with serenity, awareness and deep curiosity.

The world will miss Kathy's wisdom, insight, love, humour and her overflowing creativity.

Her spirit will live on in the memories and hearts of all who knew her, as well as in the thousands of sublime works of art she created during her lifetime. Her soul has become an integral part of the world and the deeper Mystery, as it has always been.
Kathleen, we who love you honour your life, and wish you a safe, joyous and transcendent journey.

Kathy was born on May 24, 1952 in Budapest Hungary. She escaped into Austria with her parents in the final wave of refugees in 1956 by walking out across snow-covered marshes, one of the youngest children to take that route. She came as a refugee to Montreal, where she spent the next 16 years. She then spent 11 years in London Ontario where we first met in 1972, 13 years in Rochester New York, and 14 years in Los Angeles, where we were finally re-united. She spent her last seven years in Ottawa, making art full time.

She realized she was an artist at the age of five. She was especially prolific during the last decade, thanks to her embrace of digital art and fractals. She has left us an enormous body of work, literally thousands of digital paintings. Her images have caused many of her fans to say that they feel they are looking at the structure of reality itself, or perhaps getting a glimpse into their own souls. Spending time with Kathleen's work is a transcendent experience. I will always treasure the memory of watching her at work, as her Muses channeled the inspiration that flowed from her hands onto the computer screen.

Bodhi Paul Chefurka

Kathleen has asked me to share this last message with the world.

To my loved ones:

I have decided to take my leave, based on the current state of my body and quality of life. I regret only that I don’t have the energy left to say an individual goodbye to each of you. I celebrate that you have each been in my life and my heart! Your friendship and love have been a pillar of strength in my life and they are treasures that I will carry with me into the mystery that awaits. Please know that the brevity of this note only reflects my waning energy, not any absence of depth of emotion and appreciation. I am deeply grateful for your presence in my life and hope that you can feel how much you each have meant to me. Thank you for all that you have done and been to me – I will see you on the other side, or perhaps even before!

Kathleen Farago May
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She is gone. [View all] The_jackalope Sep 2017 OP
So sorry for your painful loss! Chasstev365 Sep 2017 #1
This sounds like a life well lived. LisaM Sep 2017 #2
So sorry for your loss. Autumn Sep 2017 #3
Was there a particular piece of art you and she were proud of? ret5hd Sep 2017 #4
I found this drmeow Sep 2017 #96
Cosmic and beautiful! Thanks. The Wielding Truth Sep 2017 #97
Thank you. I saved this. n/t raven mad Sep 2017 #120
Just went there. Seriously amazing stuff! calimary Sep 2017 #117
A lovely vision xxqqqzme Sep 2017 #129
an eloquent note from you....and her.... dhill926 Sep 2017 #5
So sorry for your loss Phoenix61 Sep 2017 #6
Beautiful tribute LyndaG Sep 2017 #7
I am so sorry for your loss. Ilsa Sep 2017 #8
I'm so sorry for your loss catrose Sep 2017 #9
I'm so very sorry. I lost my spouse & best friend in December 2014, so I know catbyte Sep 2017 #10
My condolences to you. Please take care . Thanks for letting us know . You had mentioned you lunasun Sep 2017 #11
So sorry for your loss. May the love you shared comfort you in the coming days. onecaliberal Sep 2017 #12
What a beautiful tribute you have given her. I am so sorry for what this must be for you. Squinch Sep 2017 #13
Rest in peace shenmue Sep 2017 #14
My deepest condolences on your loss... Docreed2003 Sep 2017 #15
May her memory be a blessing... TygrBright Sep 2017 #16
My sympathies take care of yourself blueinredohio Sep 2017 #17
Peace and love to both of you BadgerMom Sep 2017 #18
My condolences for your loss MrScorpio Sep 2017 #19
Thank you for sharing godsentme Sep 2017 #20
She will live forever ...... she sounds like a very fine person Angry Dragon Sep 2017 #21
thank you for sharing handmade34 Sep 2017 #22
Godspeed Kathleen GeorgeGist Sep 2017 #23
I will raise my glass to Kathleen, and sending you comfort! MLAA Sep 2017 #24
So sorry for your loss CanonRay Sep 2017 #25
My condolences to you and your family.... Heartstrings Sep 2017 #26
I am so sorry for your loss. yardwork Sep 2017 #27
Thank you for sharing her story and her spirit with us. pnwmom Sep 2017 #28
my deepest condolences. barbtries Sep 2017 #29
Bless you both.... chillfactor Sep 2017 #30
Dear Jackalope, thank you so much for sharing such a personal and hearfelt journey. I was thinking Amaryllis Sep 2017 #31
I am terribly sorry for you're loss. denbot Sep 2017 #32
Very, very sad, JohnnyLib2 Sep 2017 #33
My deep condolences on your loss. montana_hazeleyes Sep 2017 #34
So sorry for your loss. Eko Sep 2017 #35
Nice. Nt lostnfound Sep 2017 #102
... SammyWinstonJack Sep 2017 #36
Deep Condolences benld74 Sep 2017 #37
Peace be with you. mobeau69 Sep 2017 #38
I am SO sorry for you and your beloved mate... The_REAL_Ecumenist Sep 2017 #39
Thank you so much for sharing this journey with us. Shanti Mama Sep 2017 #40
What a nice tribute!!!!! onecent Sep 2017 #41
I feel that the pain we feel when we lose someone is bearable TNNurse Sep 2017 #42
She was an extraordinary woman, thank you for sharing some of her life during your grief. JHan Sep 2017 #43
So sorry for your loss ms liberty Sep 2017 #44
I Am So Sorry for Your Loss . . OldManTarHeel Sep 2017 #45
So sorry democrank Sep 2017 #46
This is such a beautiful message..... a kennedy Sep 2017 #47
Peace to your family and friends world wide wally Sep 2017 #48
So sorry for your loss. volstork Sep 2017 #49
Deepest sympathy snacker Sep 2017 #50
I am so sorry. broadcaster90210 Sep 2017 #51
I am sorry for your loss. Lifelong Protester Sep 2017 #52
Thank you for sharing Kathy and her story with us. Peace be with you. nt No Vested Interest Sep 2017 #53
My deepest condolences to you and your family. CrispyQ Sep 2017 #54
I lost both of my parents to cancer FakeNoose Sep 2017 #55
Beautiful tribute. mountain grammy Sep 2017 #56
Peace to you and your family. riversedge Sep 2017 #57
I am so sorry. dflprincess Sep 2017 #58
Blessings and cilla4progress Sep 2017 #59
Sorry Jackalope. Take comfort that you were there with her and you made her feel loved kimbutgar Sep 2017 #60
This is a beautiful tribute and note sharedvalues Sep 2017 #61
I am sorry. murielm99 Sep 2017 #62
So sorry for your loss. riverbendviewgal Sep 2017 #63
I am so sorry for your loss. May her memory be a blessing and EllieBC Sep 2017 #64
I am so sorry she had to take that step across the threshold in sinkingfeeling Sep 2017 #65
Your words and Kathleen's words are most beautiful. Duppers Sep 2017 #66
Peace to you and your family. progressoid Sep 2017 #67
Humanity needs more souls like her Pepsidog Sep 2017 #68
...and the wheel turns. WheelWalker Sep 2017 #69
We are all made of stardust SonofDonald Sep 2017 #70
I'm so sorry. She seems like someone who WOULD be a big loss to you. A beautiful goodbye note. nt Honeycombe8 Sep 2017 #71
Mrs. Scrutinizer died on 1 March this year central scrutinizer Sep 2017 #72
So many wise and gentle words here. 3catwoman3 Sep 2017 #73
Sorry for your loss Bettie Sep 2017 #74
My thoughts and best wishes go out to you, jackalope. SergeStorms Sep 2017 #75
Thank you for sharing this beautiful remembrance jmbar2 Sep 2017 #76
My deepest condolences on your loss. She sounds like she was a special lady. (eom) StevieM Sep 2017 #77
She lived her life well Moral Compass Sep 2017 #78
Thank you for sharing her words madaboutharry Sep 2017 #79
Please accept my deepest condolences MontanaMama Sep 2017 #80
Peace to you all. brer cat Sep 2017 #81
Kathleen, you'll leave a void and we will miss you. raven mad Sep 2017 #82
I am so sorry to hear this. AllyCat Sep 2017 #83
Very moving and may she rest in peace GP6971 Sep 2017 #84
Kathleen Farago May !!! Iggo Sep 2017 #85
I also am very sorry for your loss. Hard to see someone we love make PatrickforO Sep 2017 #86
Thank you for sharing with us AnotherDreamWeaver Sep 2017 #87
My sincerest condolences. dae Sep 2017 #88
I am so sorry gopiscrap Sep 2017 #89
Your words and hers blend together to create an image of strength, love and a life well lived. herding cats Sep 2017 #90
From mi corazon y alma, sorry for your loss. Take care. Paz. RestoreAmerica2020 Sep 2017 #91
I'm so sorry. Solly Mack Sep 2017 #92
Lovely tribute KT2000 Sep 2017 #93
She sounds like such a graceful, rare, and courageous soul dixiegrrrrl Sep 2017 #94
What A Beautiful Tribute DarthDem Sep 2017 #95
Thank you for sharing her with us. The Wielding Truth Sep 2017 #98
Sorry for your lost and thanks for sharing her warm and touching words. ATL Ebony Sep 2017 #99
So sorry tavernier Sep 2017 #100
May sweet memories of your beloved Kathleen comfort you Danmel Sep 2017 #101
I am so sorry peacebuzzard Sep 2017 #103
Thank you for sharing the tears, a beautiful soul lostnfound Sep 2017 #104
Peace to you deek Sep 2017 #105
I am sorry for your loss Gothmog Sep 2017 #106
Sorry for your loss marked50 Sep 2017 #107
Thank you for sharing this with us lunatica Sep 2017 #108
So sorry for your loss. GoneOffShore Sep 2017 #109
I'm so sorry for your loss NewJeffCT Sep 2017 #110
RIP Initech Sep 2017 #111
My Condolences Denis 11 Sep 2017 #112
Beautiful Borchkins Sep 2017 #113
My condolences on the loss of your beloved. gademocrat7 Sep 2017 #114
She sounds like a lovely woman NastyRiffraff Sep 2017 #115
My prayers to you and your family and friends. Always remember the joy she brought to your life. iluvtennis Sep 2017 #116
I am so deeply sorry for your loss. I found what I believe might be some of her work? CousinIT Sep 2017 #118
Yep, that's hers! The_jackalope Sep 2017 #130
What a class exit! hamsterjill Sep 2017 #119
((((((jackalope)))))) niyad Sep 2017 #121
... Lochloosa Sep 2017 #122
Beautiful. Clearly she was fortunate to have you in her life. Dark n Stormy Knight Sep 2017 #123
Bless her, sounds like a life well lived. Hugs to her family and friends. redstatebluegirl Sep 2017 #124
Safe passing ck4829 Sep 2017 #125
So sorry for your loss...of such a special, sweet soul... Ninga Sep 2017 #126
I am so sorry. MuseRider Sep 2017 #127
So so sorry for your loss. sdfernando Sep 2017 #128
My deepest condolences Moostache Sep 2017 #131
... 2naSalit Sep 2017 #132
I am so sorry for your loss. Beacool Sep 2017 #133
What a great tribute, Jackalope.. Permanut Sep 2017 #134
Wonderful. TrollBuster9090 Sep 2017 #135
So sorry for your loss. alfredo Sep 2017 #136
The beauty and sensitivity of the last message speaks volumes about who she was. NNadir Sep 2017 #137
Condolences, Jackalope ... mr_lebowski Sep 2017 #138
You were lucky to have each other, even though too short a time. williesgirl Sep 2017 #139
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