Reply #34: that would be the following

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Don't ask don't tell means that if one publicly declares oneself a homosexual one is forced to leave the military. The term public here means things like saying it to other military personel (even if they are priests or psychologists), saying it to newspapers or other media, and acting on it.

Don't tell don't misbehave is quite different. There are a variety of things which are against military reguations regardless of orientation. Adultery, fraternization, sexual harassment, etc. That is what Clark means here.