Reply #107: Remember this also ...

[Serial Mom]

“He that is without sin among you, let him cast the first stone...”

Some of us are holier than thou with our attitudes and begin bullying others based on what bullying is all about.

What is bullying?
Bullying includes a wide variety of behaviors, but all involve a person or a group repeatedly trying to harm someone who is weaker or more vulnerable. It can involve direct attacks (such as hitting, threatening or intimidating, maliciously teasing and taunting, name-calling, making sexual remarks, and stealing or damaging belongings) or more subtle, indirect attacks (such as spreading rumors or encouraging others to reject or exclude someone).

Girls most often bully other girls more than boys. For example, instead of physically harming others, they are more likely to spread gossip or encourage others to reject or exclude another girl.

Bullies use power to control others. Usually, a “dominant individual (the bully) repeatedly exhibits aggressive behavior intended to cause distress to a less dominant individual (the victim).” Girl bullies tend to manipulate social groups by name-calling, verbal abuse and spreading rumors to damage friendships among others or to exclude selected girls from social interaction. Thus, girl bullies tend to use non-physical aggression more than physical violence. Most recently, girls are reported to be using the Internet to harass their peers.

Girls who engage in relational aggression and bullying suggest that they often do so to alleviate boredom, by creating excitement, finding out gossip, seeking attention/importance and seeking validation from a group that excludes others.


Had to say it... it happens and it applies to all of us, myself included. And I recently noticed that most of the cruelty here is girl/girl, woman/woman. Why do we treat each other with such contempt?