Reply #33: Of course I wouldn't - that would be insensitive.

[Rabrrrrrr]

Nor would I stand up at a funeral and deliver it.

But in privacy, and with others, I sure as hell will; and have done so with family members about dead family members including both of my parents. Why lie? There were bad things about my parents - thankfully, far more good things, but a few very bad things they did. I refuse to be silent about them; and I refuse to silence anyone from speaking their truth in appropriate ways and places. This forum is a very appropriate place for it, because her family surely aren't reading here, and even if they were, I can't imagine that they would what any of us think.

I can't believe you tell me that I have no compassion. What an amazingly broadbrushed thing to say.