Reply #5: Let him do whatever he wants

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Let him try and experiment and don't force him into anything, and give him permission to change his mind as much as he wants.

I spent my life thinking I wanted to be an engineer, went to college, worked as an engineer, and realized it really was not what I wanted. So I worked at a grocery store bagging groceries for three years. And I was happy as hell those three years, and still am happy as hell doing what I feel called to do.

My family hated it though - but you know what? Tough shitties for them.

At the age of 14, NO ONE - and i mean NO ONE - should be thinking of career paths. Some do know - that's cool. Most don't - that's cool, too.

I realize he has a severely disabled brother, but that's not truly relevant in terms of finding a "decent paying job", unless something drastic happens, like you and spouse die and he has no choice but to take all responsibility. Let him find his happiness or else the care he offers his brother will be angry, unhappy, lacking love, and miserable for everyone.

If he's doing what he loves, he'll find a way to make money from it, and be happier all around, and be a much better helper for his brother. Even if he decides to study midieval literature.