Reply #140: "And we never know the full story until we walk in the shoes..."

[KansDem]

And this is where we might tend to be too judgmental. I don't know about this particular couple--they seem awfully young--but I've seen older couples (40s and on up) who have in essence "fallen out of love" in that they no longer communicate or share their experiences with their spouses. It's as if they should not be married! I've seen couples take separate vacations and sleep in separate rooms. Maybe they stay together for the kids' sake (not always a good idea) or for economic reasons. And I've seen couples where one spouse just doesn't want the intimacy anymore.

Put all together disputes over finances, child-rearing, and other domestic matters and you have the basis for "wandering" on the part of one or both spouses.

Obviously, a separation is in order--it's just a matter of when. Until then, we're not getting any younger...