Reply #166: But what business is it of yours? Or anyone else's for that matter?

[zingaro]

The Clinton's shit is their shit. My shit is my shit. Yours is yours.

Seriously, the decision to "take back a cheating spouse" is an amazingly intricate one. There are life factors involved, families, homes, LIVES... it's not always just about a leopard changing their spots and someone *taking* it.

I always thought that if my dh cheated I'd toss his sorry ass to the curb without turning back to see if he knocked his brains out when he hit the pavement. However, as often happens, reality doesn't always match up with one's fantastic imaginings. And the choices I had to make were mine alone to make. I can't foresee whether the choices I made were right or wrong but I know that they're the ones that were best for my entire family, not just my wounded pride and shattered heart. It was HARD to react from a big-picture place and so the notion that someone might lose respect for me because I put my family's needs before my own is just a little hard to swallow.