Reply #49: After reading all the posts to this point.

[hippywife]

I agree that she must be told. It sounds like you are going out tomorrow for lunch. Is there anyway you can arrange to have lunch privately at one of your residences rather than in public? I'm just thinking that she is going to be very upset and embarrassed. Better not to have this during a public outing which would just make those feelings worse.

You mentioned that you'd really rather have her safe, and I would totally stress this to her, as well. And the thought that you were afraid that she would reject the two of you, but if that was the case, it would break your hearts but if her safety were compromised that would have broken your hearts even more.

Sounds like you will be as loving as possible, and as sensitive as possible to her feelings in your approach. You are indeed a good friend.


I wish you luck, I certainly don't envy any of the three of you. :hug: