Reply #24: Hooking

[undergroundpanther]

up with people is not as hard as like you are taught to think.
The more you want to hookup with someone the more you will push them away.You give of anxiety,you act in a way that broadcasts something that makes people confused attracted and stand offish at the same time.I got a radial idea, TOTALLY Give up looking for "someone".
Just enjoy the presence of the company of people at the moment around you and put the dating game off the table as if it was impossible or that you have given up.
Then with the anxiety over dating gone from, your choice not to care,you will meet people and they won't play as many games.Because you aren't playing them with yourself.

I am weird ,I don't flirt and I don't play games.If I like someone I say so and I say exactly how I like them.If they do not feel the same it is their choice I am not"hurt" I can still be friends because I do not care about the dating bullshit.I can take it or leave it. .Honesty in relationships is vital to me.If you are not honest you ain't worth my time.If you play games and hint,I will force the issue into open discussion.If you don't like that,tough I don't like bullshit games and If you like me you might as well understand I don't play.And I will not be disrespected even if this to some people is a "signal" someone "likes me".If you like me you do not jam pencils in my leg or put hairs on my desk.That Romanian chick was a control freak bully and who wants to be loved by a bully asshole? I don't have time for idiots with"control issues"They either get over it,and say they like me and act like it,when I ask them what is going on ,Or they are not worth my time.
If they get hot and cold I'll ask why they are so changeable if they play games with me than they ain't worth my time.


With these standards of what I tolerate out of the dates I do get,I screen out assholes.Along with the choice to totally not bother"looking" I have met plenty of worthwhile people.

99% of human dating revolves around soothing insecurity and stupid power games.

I don't have time for any of that bullshit.
But remember how common mental illness is in America and do not forget our economy relies on your insecurity and the people who love images more than substance and confuse the two . It is full of confused miserable people who make themselves and others into objects and do not allow people to be who they are.There are sick people out there who like mind games and to abuse people..and our idiot culture calls this entitlement game"strength and "confidence".When really it's frigging sociopath,Domineering men who objectify women are common and they damage their dates personalities so they are made more insecure. and will seek out a loser bully because they want thrills not a relationship.Give them time they may tire of assholes and heal from that feeling they do not deserve a good hearted mate.

This "I don't deserve to be treated as a human being""belief is one that is ingrained into women from childhood up it comes from a million different directions .This conditioning sadly is what keeps some women away from the good kindhearted men they believe they do not deserve to finally be loved for real.

As for boobs some women see them as appendages sometimes I know I do, and men have been taught by our culture to over-sexualize these overgrown sweat glands.A woman cannot expect their boobs to be the appendages they are if men keep worshiping them as something of a fetish object and reading into what women do with them based on their own fetishism that is tied to their own desire for sex.It is hard to remember this guys,boobs are big protruding glads to feed infants,not sex toys..The bigger they are the more they stick out, they bang against tables,they get in the way of what you are doing alot..
Try looking at it this way,What if women sexualized your elbows guys? What if women lusted after male elbows like men do tits and men because of social convention bound and covered them,but since you got elbows they are there and you have to make them inconspicuous and conspicuous or no woman would notice you? Elbows do and have a purpose different from the lust these women have for them.What if you drove by billboards with half covered male elbows on it selling nail polish or perfume for women?.What if you banged some woman by accident with your elbow and it was seen as an erotic pass? Get over this overblown tit fetish guys, it's silly it's a commercially manufactured lust..

Like me or don't like me fine with me.But do not play mind games with me and disrespect me. Doing these things are a surefire way to make sure I do not ever like YOU.
And looks? I don't care about looks 'cause we all get old anyways.What's in the mind and heart is what lasts.