Reply #11: I don't think they are predators.

[noamnety]

Some (not all, but some) of the people saying that are the same people who don't think gays have it that bad because they can at least pass for straight. This is one of those catch-22s. If you are openly gay, you can lose your job, lose your health insurance, get randomly beaten ... and if you opt not to do that, to accept your lot in life as a continually oppressed person, you're a predator? Those are some shitty choices.

I figure most relationships end for one reason or another, many of them because one partner falls for another person or at least loses interest in the other person. A break up is a break up - it's going to be painful no matter what. But if the dumped person thinks it's worse and thinks of the other person as a predator because their next partner is going to be the other gender, I don't really understand that. I've never been on either side of an "I'm gay - wtf I thought you were straight" relationship. But if you dump me, I'll be hurt or angry depending on the situation, and I'd like to think the level of pissedoffness would be the same whether the next person you are attracted to is a man or a woman.