Reply #52: As the daughter of a gay man who was married in the 50's - 70's, I think there

[pnwmom]

is much less excuse to marry a straight person today. If you're living in an area where it's too hard to be gay, you should move -- rather than marry an unsuspecting straight partner. Yes, society is wrong, and yes, things need to change -- but you need to accept responsibility for not hurting someone else in the meantime.

I have spoken to dozens of children of gay people, most of whom were brought up by mixed orientation parents, and they are often the ones who suffer the most from the parents' unhappiness. I wish you could hear from some of the teens today who are still affected by this.

(My father wasn't deceptive, by the way. He was completely inexperienced and didn't understand his sexuality -- and his religious upbringing didn't help. But his inner turmoil and the friction caused by this made for an unhappy family.)