Reply #44: Keep your chin up

[BillSam]

I don't know about your individual sexual practices but there's still a good chance you'll remain negative.

As for your SO, he's lucky he's got someone who cares about him.

That doesn't mean you have to continue the relationship if you feel it isn't working. There are support groups for HIV+ people of different ages. You don't have to be the only person he relies upon.

I dated a man for some time that I was intimate with who finally got around to telling me he not only had HIV but AIDS. We stuck to safer sex (which is why he felt there wouldn't be a problem, although he undoubtedly felt guilt-wracked) and I tested negative afterward but nevertheless I was furious for a while. Then my compassion for him took over. (Had the result gone the other way I may have felt differently.) Not the same level of betrayal that you're feeling, of course.

I wish both of you the best.