Reply #84: Um,

[SarahB]

when I began to be open with the people I am close to in my life has no bearing on any "official coming out" on DU. I'm not sure if my opinions do either. I wasn't aware one needed to have the approval of others in terms of when my "DU coming out time period" gives me the right to a question either. I have had the experience of people stalking me and butting in to my personal life far too much on this site over the years, so I choose to keep my private life pretty damned private (plus my husband posts here and being married to a bisexual woman can bring in a lot of frat boy, stupid questions from others that we both feel is no one's business but ours). We have friends outside DU we discuss our personal life with far more. Life does exist for many beyond this site.

I know how this place works and I also know that those who post more frequently will be closely defended and those who don't (like myself, who has at other times been a very active member of this community for 4-5 years) will be questioned as to motivation as if we are somehow less entitled to our opinion because we are living extremely full, busy lives. I fully expected that in my original reply. I'm just asking some questions for the OP to consider himself. I'm nothing if not a person who can see many sides to issues and keep an open mind.

It seems like there's a consistent pattern on DU. A question infers attack. Attack = Defense. Defense = one party is automatically wrong. It's not about right or wrong. It's about dialog and thought. I seemed to see a pattern. Perhaps I'm wrong. Perhaps motivations are entirely about nothing more than support. I just hope that support does continue.