Reply #18: understood. But I wonder as I read your post

[Lerkfish]

if the same thing could have been and probably was said about the Columbine victims-- not equating tragedies, just struck by how futile it felt to me when I read this:

"What are they doing to change that society? What did they do to make the path safer for other Lawrence Kings and their lesbian sisters who are also now beyond help. What will they do for those still alive and fighting?. "

I think its unfortunately true that often, in ALL circumstances, we as a society fail our individuals in order to keep them safe.
But I don't know how, in some cases, you COULD keep everyone safe, it seems (speaking as a parent of a young child) a very scary thought that the world around us does NOT have my child's safety in mind nor guaranteed. At any moment, a gunman or a distraught student could blow my kid away and there's not a lot I could do to either know about it ahead of time or know how to forestall.

Its just sad, sad, that people kill innocent people, its also more sad in one way if the killing is a hate crime, and its more sad in another way if its random.


Sorry, this is just a tangent. I understand your point. I also don't have a clue how to make someone who is intolerant and whom I don't know, tolerant.
do you have any suggestions?