Reply #66: It's so sad that's not a rhetorical question, isn't it?

[LisaLynne]

elehhhhna's advice about the rape crisis center is good, imho. Just talking to somebody who understands and doesn't judge is all you can get and it does help a lot. A good center will be able to support her in whatever she chooses to do (notice I said a GOOD center -- not that I have any advice about finding one -- I'm way up north, not in FL).

It makes me really sad that people still try to find ways to blame the victim. I know that sometimes people say, "She should have done this" or "She should have done that" do that in order to make themselves feel safer. The idea of rape is very scary and that is a defense mechanism -- "Oh, it won't happen to me because I know to fight" or whatever. But, we need to get beyond that and face our fears and reality. Rape happens. We need to work on stopping it from the perpetrator's perspective because they are the PROBLEM. Well, them, society and our justice system. Bleck.