Reply #8: My thoughts

[reformedrethug]

are that is could be several things all wrapped into one. When the husband is deployed, the wife has to take on both roles ie: Mother and Father roles and when he comes home its hard for the wife to adjust to not having to be both, and its hard for the man to adjust to the wife being the only adult in the family. Its hard to put into words really, often times when he comes home he feels that he is not "needed" because the wife has had to take care of everything in his absence and thats hard for the man to adjust too. I know that was a contributing factor to my divorce, that and the fact we were both simply too young IMHO as she was right out of HS, in fact for her senior prom I was the one that took her so she really did not have a chance to "live" after HS.

Also, being in combat, or in a combat theater does change people there is no disputing that fact. Some people are able to adjust mentally, emotionally, and physically better than others after coming home from that atmosphere, and its hard on all involved during this adjustment. There is a saying in the military in general that being a military wife is THE hardest job in the military and after living that life I belive that 100% and not all women are able to handle that, just as all men are not able to handle that either.