Reply #26: Yes! and I am not disdained or discussed just suspicious.

[rebel with a cause]

Him being gay has nothing at all to do with it, but at least you were honest enough to accuse me of what the others were thinking but was not saying. Again, him being gay has nothing to do with what I was saying, my whole point, and only point, was that he had an agreemnt with his wife about the custody and the divorce. Now he has backed out of that agreement and is seeking child support. That was my only point and the fact that the wife was the supposed victim in the divorce since he cheated on her. It does not make any difference if he cheated with a man or a woman, he still cheated and she was the one that would look like a fool if she did not know. My husband cheated with a woman and everyone knew before I did, and I understand how that feels.

As for him seeking sole custody, unless the mother is unfit I do not think it is in the best interest of the child for him to seek it. Neither would I think it was best for the child to have her father shut out of her life and only have visits with him on occasion. But this is something the court will now have to straighten out, because evidently they cannot agree upon it for themselves.

Unfortunately although my ex and I had joint custody of my children, I was their primary parent and he had visits because he could not behave and have a civil divorce. There were about five years that I had to hide where I lived from him so I could have any peace, and visits with the children had to be arranged. They did not want to live with their father and only my son would spend even a few days with him. After fifteen years he is finally able to act like an adult, but my children are now grown. I would not wish our type of divorce on others. And I know ours was not the worse, there have been some far worse.


Edited for grammer use.