Reply #259: FWIW, I understood your post.

[noamnety]

As parents - even as adoptive parents - the primary responsibility is to do what's best for your child.

The mother in Haiti was trying to do that, trying to ensure her child would have food where she couldn't provide it. I don't know why anyone misunderstood that you were criticizing that.

The adoptive parents ... well, there's the dilemma. It's better to be adopted than be in an orphanage, yes. Better. But the best outcome for the child is to stay within their own culture, with their own mother, and have food. Assuming the article was correct, the adoptive parents could have ensured that for far less than what they spent on adoption, but they opted to do something worse for the child that met their own emotional desires as adults. That doesn't seem like a great start to a parenting relationship - prioritizing what you want over what's best for the child.