When you make a fool of yourself, how do you recover?

[Barbara Ann]

My baby sister tore me a new asshole.

She ended it by telling me she loved me.

She was right, and I deserved it.

Now what do I do?

[Mikimouse]

1. I usually just do it again, I don't learn quickly...

HOnesty is always the best policy, even if it irritates me to admit that I really am an asshole, sometimes I am. What prompted the exchange (not trying to be nosy, but a few details may help to understand).

[WillParkinson]

2. Oh, the heck with it...let's be nosy!

There's nothing on TV tonight.

<SMILE>

[Mikimouse]

4. Ok with me...The cat people have decided that nosy is good!!!

and you're right, there is nothing but garbage on TV tonight, even Stargate SG-1 is a re-run that I have seen a dozen times, RATS!

[Barbara Ann]

6. Details don't matter, and I couldn't bear it

I've been behaving like an old and bitter asshole. I did not realize it was hurting the people around me. It has.

So, I have to pull my head out of my ass. And, I will.

That's the long and short of it.

[Mikimouse]

8. Seriously, we are all guilty of that sometimes...

it only serves to remind us that we are human. Learn from it, but don't beat yourself senseless over it either.

[WillParkinson]

11. Oh, hon...

We all do it. Every one of us. The thing is that we don't really realize we've done it until it's nearly too late. I hope that everything works out for you!

[Barbara Ann]

15. Maybe I am a human being after all

I'm going to try.

Either that, or I'm going to have to get rid of my little sister.

She's getting to old to get rid of, so I guess I'd better straighten up.

;-)

[DAGDA56]

3. I move away...as far as possible.

got a passport?

[fishnfla]

5. Tell her she was right and you love her too

and that you cannot guarantee that you'll never screw up again, but if you do, she's free to tell you off.

[Barbara Ann]

9. She knows

that I love her.

She also knows she is one of the few people that can tell me my shit stinks. I'm busted.

I'm also free to change ....

[ForrestGump]

7. I kill the thread

by posting pictures of Igor.

[DAGDA56]

10. You mean EYE-gor...

nt

[ForrestGump]

12. You say EYE-gor, I say Franken-STEEN, let's call the whole thing

off. :P

[DAGDA56]

13. "Yes-s-s-s-s Ma-a-a-a-a-ster..."

NT

[Barbara Ann]

14. I .. err,, um...

don't know what to say to this.

[puerco-bellies]

16. Depends..

If in the past you've found yourself saying "I'm sorry" over and over again, don't. Instead of words, switch to deeds. Write a letter of apology (an action) and include what you did, do not justify anything and be as honest as you can. If there is some way to make an amends, be it financial, replacement of property, spiritual, or what ever, take action to help rectify your past transgressions.

The most important thing to do is to recognize what it is that you do The situations that trigger that behavior. Then when those situations START to arise again in the future, stop! Think! Then do something different, hopefully positive. If this is or seems impossible for you to do at this point, walk away and above all think before saying or doing anything that would cause emotional, physical, or any other type of harm to anyone including yourself. In short change your behavior if it is causing you and the one's you love harm.
Good luck.
P-B

[Barbara Ann]

18. That was good advice addressing behavior

I already know I have to fix something within myself. And not take it out on others.

good advice.

[roguevalley]

17. apologize and move on that is what works. also, learn from your

mistakes.