Guys, a question for you

[zls44]

My girlfriend is a little under 2 years younger than me. Today is her high school graduation. Due to rain, it will be indoors, in which case the graduate has 6 tickets and any they can get that their friends don't use, which has been the rule since before time itself.

Which should I be madder about?

A. "You can't go, because my Aunt who we didn't think was coming, is coming." (She has 8 tickets)

B. "My mom was wondering if you could come over before graduation and stay during it to make sure our cat doesn't eat all the plastic utensils."

So which is more maddening, guys...being #9, or guarding the sporks?

[truthspeaker]

1. A is understandable. B sucks big donkey balls.

[meegbear]

2. If you care about your girlfriend ...

it won't matter; as long as you're contributing to her special day.

[truthspeaker]

16. caring about someone doesn't require you to be their lackey

Screw the whole graduation. Go to a baseball game or something and send her a card.

[NewJeffCT]

20. agreed

It will impress her family if you can 'take one for the team' and wait for them while they are at the graduation (well, hopefully impress them even more)

[HEyHEY]

3. Do they think you're /......slow?

Gaurd the untensil?

[BlueJazz]

4. Tell her this:

A. I'm not a doormat

B. I'm not a doormat

[MissMillie]

5. Well, I'm not a guy, but....

I think I can understand the question anyway.

I have 5 brothers and sisters and 2 parents, so 6 tickets wouldn't even cover my immediate family. I can understand if your family is so big that there aren't enough tickets to go around.

If, because of the ticket shortage, they're asking you to play a different role I think it would be big of you to oblige them.

But--Guarding the sporks? Are the cats really going to eat the utensils? Why don't they just wait until they get back to put the sporks out?

[zls44]

6. I'm not that mad anymore

Just amused.

"But--Guarding the sporks? Are the cats really going to eat the utensils? Why don't they just wait until they get back to put the sporks out?"

That's what I've been wondering. This is really intriguing me. And if she wanted me to contribute to her special day, she could have asked her friends BEFORE YESTERDAY for a ticket.

Yesterday at 11 PM she calls my up saying I can go if her aunt doesn't go. I thought she said if her friend's aunt doesn't go.

Her aunt is incredibly important to be there...yet they DONT EVEN KNOW IF SHE'S COMING?

[MnFats]

7. Guard the Sporks!

It is a great honor among some families to be appointed guardian of the Sporks.


and, with apologies to Dave Berry, the Guardians of the Sporks sounds like a great name for a band.
Or at least an album title...."Guarding the Sporks"

[sniffa]

8. this happened on "the brady bunch" one time

they resoLved it (easiLy) by having a separate (private) ceremony for the bradies. why doesn't her schooL just do that?

[C_eh_N_eh_D_eh]

9. The second one.

Graduation is a family thing; relatives, especially close relatives, should take priority over the SO. If she hadn't given Auntie "your" ticket, her parents probably would have.

Putting you on cat duty was pretty insensitive, though.

[zls44]

11. ^^^^best forum name ever^^^^

nm

[Loonman]

10. Guarding the sporks

How menial.

Just put the cat in the bathroom, drink all their beer and go home.

[zls44]

13. I would

Except I don't drink that much and...they're a religious family. No beer that I can think of.

[Loonman]

14. Then Saran wrap the toilets

And go home.

[King Of Paperboys]

12. Sporks are among our more useful utensils.

They're right up there with foves and knoons.

At least you know where you stand, now.

[Speck Tater]

15. If it were me...

I'd go to the graduation and get as close as I could without a ticket, like hanging around the front door of the gym, or whatever. That way I'd be there to greet her and congradulate her immediately after the ceremony itself.

Either that, or I'd wait until everyone else was seated and the ceremony started and then bribe the ticket taker and get in anyway.

[zls44]

17. She offered that

I could probably get in, too. But she didn't plan for this at all, and I'm not even in the top 8 most important people to her even though she talks otherwise.

No thanks. I don't need to lower myself to the level of having to try and sneek in.

[Speck Tater]

24. Just guessing, but...

perhaps it's more that she's getting pressure from her parents to favor the relatives. If that's not the case then maybe the relationship needs to be re-evaluated.

Personally, I'd give her the benefit of the doubt because she's likely to be under a lot of pressure to "do the right thing", and she's still young enough to be easily swayed.

Above all, just be careful. I made the mistake of marrying my high school sweetheart. It took me 25 years to correct the error and get untangled from the consequences. 18 is just way too young to be making such long term commitements. Of course I didn't believe that when I was 18, so I had to pay dearly to learn I was wrong.

(ed sp)

[name not needed]

18. Fuck em. Burn the sporks and take the cat hostage

And threaten to take the cat to the nearest Chinese Restaurant if your demands are not met.

[Beer Snob-50]

Guard the Sporks

and do it with a smile. These are brownie points for you in her eyes. You would be doing something for her and that is always a good thing.

[Beer Snob-50]

19. Guard the Sporks

and do it with a smile. These are brownie points for you in her eyes. You would be doing something for her and that is always a good thing.

[zls44]

21. A NEW TWIST!!!

Apparently her aunt in question is an actress.

They didn't know if she'd be coming because she might be getting a gig today. Yet if I had work today, she'd kill me. And then she just said this:

"She's new to the family, I don't really fu*king care if she comes!"

But she got her a ticket. Not me.

[Beer Snob-50]

23. As James Caan said in the Godfather..

"Family comes first!"

[MissMillie]

26. You know,....

her mom may be forcing the issue. In which case it would be really pointless for you to be taking this so personally.

I know my mom would have had a fit if I had given a ticket to someone outside of the family if there were family members hoping to be there.

[zls44]

27. If it's her mom

Then she's ended up the way I will if I agree to guard the sporks. She simply rolls over for what her mom wants, DEFENDS IT, even if she'd rather have me there deep down inside.

[Speck Tater]

25. If you guard the sporks with a smile

you will be setting the precedent that you can be called upon to do whatever menial things needs doing. And forever more, if you EVER complain about it they will be furious with you for violating that precendent.

It's like you take in a friend in need and let them stay with you rent free while they get back on their feet. Two years later you finaly get up the guts to ask them for a little rent and they are outraged! By then they have come to expect that living rent free off you is their god-given right.

Likewise, they will come to recognize their god-given right to call upon you to guard the sporks in perpetuity. Should you EVER break that convenent, you will be hated and reviled.

[King Of Paperboys]

22. Cut and paste this:

"Dear Witch:

I fucked the cat, I shit in your Aunt's hat, and I'm taking the sporks.

Love, zls44"

[Nikia]

28. Family can create a lot of pressure

I'm not a guy, but here's my opinion. Family isn't always nice and reasonable. If she lives with her parents and they are pressing this, you shouldn't fault her for going along with it. Not all parents see their young adult as an equal or near equal. Some parents pull huge guilt trips that can really hurt people who grew up a certain way. If they would be really ticked at her, they might even throw her out of the house, write her out of the will, refuse to show up at her future wedding, consider her dead to them and a whole bunch of other things or at least threaten to do so. Believe me, my husband and I are 26 and live away from our parents and still have to deal with this crap. She probably has been really worried about the whole situation which is why she forgot to ask a friend for a ticket, which is the one thing that could have solved the problem.
I don't know about the spork thing.