DU'ers I am IN LOVE

[mark414]

is it unusual for a 19 year old to be convinced that he has found "the one?"

because I have found her.

she is the most amazing person i have ever met in my entire life and I want to share her with the whole world and keep her all to myself at the same time.

I met her last December and now I am CERTAIN.

AHHHHH!!!!!!!

EDIT: i should mention that i have never been able to put up with one girl for more than a week or two, i always lose interest right away. but she has held me this strong for this long...

[slinkerwink]

1. congratulations!

[Zomby Woof]

2. naw. it's just 19

But enjoy it anyway... that is what life is about.

[Dookus]

3. It's not unusual at all...

you'll meet at least 10 "the one's" in the next few years. :)

[Moonbeam_Starlight]

4. I met my husband when I was 19

and fell head over heels in love.

That was more than 14 years ago and I am still just as in love with him. No, more in love.

So yeah, it's possible.

[JackDragna]

5. Dump her. Dump her right now.

You're nineteen. You have no business being head-over-heels in love at an age where you're not even old enough to drink. I can understand you being attracted to someone, but being in love at that age is stupidly dangerous. Marriage is something best left for..nobody, and long-term relationships should wait until you're older. Take it from an "old" hand: the sooner this ends, the better off you'll be.

[Moonbeam_Starlight]

7. Aw what a romantic you are.

Geez, chances are the relationship will fizzle out long before marriage anyway, why not let him enjoy it?

At what age would you advise anyone to allow themselves to fall in love? 55?

[JackDragna]

24. I'd like no one to "fall in love," if it could be helped.

Romantic love is the product of people who wrote too much poetry in the Middle Ages. Relationships between men and women (or homosexual relationships, should you lean that way) should be brief. We'd all be a lot happier. Less heart attacks, fewer people buying dumb gift cards..

..my god, I'm a genius.

[Moonbeam_Starlight]

34. Thanks but no thanks

I've loved my husband for going on 15 years. I wouldn't trade the happiness we've had together for anything. If you don't want to be in a relationship, by all means, don't. But some of us do enjoy our partners.

[Zomby Woof]

8. now THAT

Is MY kind of hard-won wisdom. Couldn't have said it better. :D

[mark414]

9. gee thanks

so i guess my 3 sets of aunts and uncles who all met in high school and are still married 25-35 years later should've taken your advice?

[Zomby Woof]

13. it's different these days

Maybe YOU are ready, but is SHE? People willing to commit at such a young age are rarer than brains at a Bush Fan Club meeting.

[Moonbeam_Starlight]

14. I missed where he said he is getting married tomorrow

gosh guys let him enjoy it for crying out loud. It probably WON'T last to a wedding day, considering their ages, but why not let him just enjoy the feeling?

[mark414]

37. yeah um...i don't plan on getting married for a long time

i've still got too much to do, as does she, before buckling down with that sort of commitment

[Donkeyboy75]

62. Statistics actually show that the average age of couples

getting married has dropped over the last 10-20 years.

[JackDragna]

18. Yep. They're worse off for it, I imagine.

No relationship in its best moments compare to the worst moments of not having people tell you what to do, what to think or ask you whether they look fat in those jeans. Let the rest of the world reproduce: worthwhile people should enjoy life doing something other than wiping toddler's noses and worrying whether what they've done that day slighted some dysfunctional nincompoop they're in a relationship with.

Telling it like it is! :)

[Zomby Woof]

21. oh man! you are KILLING me

You are my id unleashed. :thumbsup:

[Moonbeam_Starlight]

22. Wow

who dumped you?

[JackDragna]

28. A few people..

..I've also dumped people as well. In actuality, my love life hasn't been terrible. Most of my impressions come from my family and friends (and society, in some small part), who have all managed to have absolute train wrecks of marriages/boyfriends and girlfriends/one-night stands.

[Moonbeam_Starlight]

36. Too bad you haven't known more people like me and Mr. Moonbeam

we are happy, stable, and in love. Partners in life.

Met young and still going strong. No one could describe our relationship as a train wreck by any stretch of the imagination.

I'm sorry you've witnessed so many bad relationships.

[JackDragna]

58. Nope. Never really have.

Everyone I've ever seen has pretty much ended up ruining their lives through their relationships. I see a nation with a 53% divorce rate after five years as being a pretty bad place to try to find a mate. I'm also disturbed by the simmering level of social dysfunction I find in most people. We sit around and watch TV instead of going out and developing social skills. Consequently, we don't rid ourselves of the sort of bad social habits that regular human contact would erase. Problem is, many people are good enough at hiding these traits until someone gets to really know them well. Finding out someone is a frigging co-dependent emotional nutjob is an experience I've had twice in my life now and I shan't make the mistake of doing it again.

[DS1]

26. I'm wondering if you mispelled your login name

JackDrama maybe?

[JackDragna]

29. Oh no. No drama here...

..at least, compared to the drama I see among married friends of mine. "Oh, so-and-so said this and now I'm so offended! Gaaah." From what I can gather, I'd rather go down a razorblade slide with a pool of lemon juice at the bottom rather than be in a serious relationship. :)

[Blue-Jay]

65. Hahaha! DS1 made me do a spit-take!

[HEyHEY]

31. DOn't listen to him - you can drink in Canada!

[JohnKleeb]

38. haha

really though, its one thing for y'all to say someone like me shouldn't be falling in love, and in deed most of my crushes have been on people that I really like to spend time with, not "love" but enjoy being with. As admitted the other night, I do have one, a crush.

[Taverner]

35. Yep

If she's the one, live together and get married when youre 30 if youre still together

[jbutsz]

6. I wish I had a dollar for every time I was certain at that age

Good luck!

[Rowdyboy]

10. Enjoy the hell out of it...If she's the one, you'll be together forever...

For me, what I wanted at 19 and what I wanted at 30 were two different things. I never really found the "ONE" until I was 35. We've been together 15 years now.

Good luck. Que sera, sera...

[faithnotgreed]

12. good post rowdyboy...

[WindRavenX]

11. good luck

Love hurts.

[amandae]

15. Hubby and I met at 13 ...

Didn't date until 15, broke up at 17 and then got back together at 21. We've been together, married, for more than 6 years. Took a break from eachother between 17 and 21 (with some states between us too) which was much needed ... but my point is that I think it can happen for someone at 19! Maybe you should wait awhile before picking out china patterns, but I say enjoy your love and see where it leads you :loveya:

:hi:

[HEyHEY]

16. Dude remember

If you put your ear up to a woman's ear, you'll hear circus music and monkeys!

You've been warned!!

;-)

[Moonbeam_Starlight]

17. Ear up to a woman's what?

Ear? Volvo?

[HEyHEY]

20. haha

Just being cheeky tonight! yet another attempt to find the humourless!

[NightTrain]

19. Good luck!

I'm twice your age and I just ended a relationship. And I don't mind telling you, it hurts like hell! :cry:

[DS1]

23. December seems to be a good month for that

:bounce:

[Moonbeam_Starlight]

25. Psssst Mark

(there is no shortage of cynical people in this world....just enjoy it....don't go picking out rings, just enjoy it.....and as the teenagers say "shake off dem hatas")

[Lex]

27. My dad married my mom when he was 19 and she was 20.

That was in 1963. They'd known each other for a little over a year when they married.

They are still happy, still each other's best friend, and still in love.

[JVS]

30. You must first work hard, build a life and a good name. Then you...

may consider such frivolities.

[Fuzzy LaRue]

32. Some Advice From Someone Who has Been There.

There are things that make you you. Don't give these up. Let go of the obvious ones, tittie bars, all night parties with buddies trying to tag everything in site. But the things that define you, are you. These should not change.

Keep another thing in mind, SOMETIMES LOVE IS NOT ENOUGH. Never use your love of a person keep you in a situation that that would be worse than being on your own.

Glad you found her. Maybe she is the One. Hopefully, she will not wind up being just the FIRST one. Good luck.

[JohnKleeb]

33. congrads

[PittPoliSci]

39. not uncommon!

i thought i had met "the one" till she pulled my heart out of my ass with her teeth!

what a pain in my ass that was...

but congrats nevertheless...

[miss_kitty]

40. my brother's friend in 11th grade showed him a picture and said

"this is my friend, Sherrie." He looked at that PICTURE and knew he was going to marry her. They got married a year out of high school (1976). both were 18, and they celebrated their 28th anniversary in May.
I think you should follow your heart. It happens.

[mark414]

41. inspiring story

the first time i met this girl i was just blown away. like i said i've never been able to really stand any girl but just how we interacted like it was nothing (i'm really bad with women) the first time we met left me feeling something i'd never felt before. and she STILL makes me feel like that.

my cousin has an interesting story as well. her now husband came into the restaurant she was working at on new year's eve with some friends and she was their waitress. according to him, after she left their table for the first time to get their drinks he turned to his friends and said he was going to marry that girl.

10 years and 3 beautiful kids later...there they are.

[miss_kitty]

43. yep-Bill and Sherrie have 4 kids

that's not to say it has not been work-my brother can be a serious ahole (he's going through a freeper stage right now :(), and because of that, if she was not a freaking saint, and he did not love her to pieces, it would have been over years ago.

Like your cousin, my brother had the extreme stroke of luck that she had reciprocal feelings.

He could not have asked for a better wife, the kids a better mom and me, a better sister-in-law.

Yeah, it sounds like what you got is special. i wish you the best. :)

[getoffmytrain]

42. I was your age too...

I am 26 now... life is good!

[WillyT]

44. Falling In Love Is Wonderful...

stepping in it, is a whole nother thing altogether!

:shrug:

[Endangered Specie]

45. Care to guess how many times I thought I've fallen in love

between 16 and now?

You cant count them on your fingers, youd need toes.

[JohnKleeb]

46. dude thats why my crushes arent really romantic

I have a hard time falling in love, now falling for someone because of something I like about em is different. :shrug: and I bet I got no chance with this one.

[Endangered Specie]

49. My 'advice'

is to try, if you dont your chance ARE zero.

Make sure you know their political stance, if they are opposite you, good luck, all those have failed for me (and a damn shame too... sigh /memorylane)

playing hard to get is a good way of finding out if she is into you or not, and seeming too interested in them is a turnoff for them. Dont drool over her in other words, Ive made that mistake too many times.

Listen, alot, and memorize, they will quiz you and expect you to know things about them, they Dont forfet!

Thats about all I know. ;)

[JohnKleeb]

56. well lemme see

I'm gonna try of course. Oh I definely know her politics, that's not a worry at all, and its nice since they are near simliar. I'm gonna try.

[mark414]

47. i am not one of those teenagers who falls in love every year

i am very level headed ESPECIALLY on this issue

i have never claimed to have been in love before and there have been some girls that i have really really liked

[Endangered Specie]

50. What happens is is we confuse...

love with lust and physical attraction.

Now that I am a bit older, Id like to think Im a bit wiser (or, less unwise I should say).

[mark414]

51. well that is certainly part of it

because i was floored at first sight

but then i talked to her and that's what really knocked me off my feet

[Endangered Specie]

52. Funny that works in reverse for me alot though...

Wow shes a beauty... go to talk, and she is a dumbass

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But shes still hot ;)

[mark414]

53. what can i say

she's the best

[Rabrrrrrr]

48. Woo hoo!! May it be whatever it is destined to be,

and may you and her fly through it all with aplomb!

[WilliamPitt]

54. 19 year olds and chicks = dropping guns into a schoolyard

But yas gotta learn, so be in love, and bring a bucket.

[BelleCarolinaPeridot]

55. I wish you the best of luck :)

I wish you the best of luck , don't listen to what these cynics but remember , people grow , and don't rush anything . Always keep your own identity and never base your happiness on the presence of someone else .

[bloodyjack]

57. I've always felt that happiness is difficult to find in other people

and impossible to find within yourself.

So, kudos to you. It probably beats the heck out of fearful seclusion

<<That's KODOS but you get the idea

[VOX]

59. Congratulations, mark414 -- ride the wave!

Love is the best.

Good going :toast:

[Dying Eagle]

60. Good for you

I am 23 and I just had my 4th wedding anniversary. The only advice i can give you is stay strong. Don't let your family or DU tell you what to do. Also if you do get married I always say Communication is the key. If get into a fight, DONT walk away or leave the house. Force the issue, sit down and work it out. If it wasn't for this tip, I would have never lasted this long.

[Swamp Rat]

61. Have fun!

Dude, save some money and go to Brasil. You'll REALLY find love there!... I swear to Zeus and the entire pantheon, you will thank me and call me friend for this advice. I was married once, but that ended as do all relationships. If I had been married when I went to Brasil last year, I would have gotten divorced over the phone. Brasileiras (Brazilian girls) taught me what real love is! ;-)

[DoNotRefill]

63. Think 10 year engagement.

then, if you're still crazy over her, it's probably no longer just lust.

/used to fall into love...3-5 times a day.

[bicentennial_baby]

64. I fell in love when I was 14

Of course we did'nt hook up then, but we became best friends and 10 years later we got engaged and are together to this day. Good for you! Congrats! :toast: