What's the best way to ask a man in?

[yvr girl]

Or does technique not matter at this point?

[Nicholas D Wolfwood]

1. I think "do you want to come in?" works fine.

If you've made it to that point and you say this, I really doubt there will be much hesitation.

[HereSince1628]

21. Into _WHAT_?

Let's be perfectly clear about what portals we are asking someone to penetrate.

[yvr girl]

22. You make it sound like some kind of war game

I was thinking my front door.

[HereSince1628]

23. 1st check the definition of portal...I think front door is one...

but then there are numerous _biological_ portals.

Knowing exactly what you are inviting makes a rather big difference :)

[yvr girl]

24. Believe me I did get your portal penetration reference

I would say that being invited in the front door does not make it a done deal to be invited in further.

[HereSince1628]

25. Yes, my point exactly, be clear about what the invitation accesses

Regardless of how bizarre I might sound I do have an adult,single daughter with whom I have played similar conversation games.

My advice to her has been--"Don't market what you aren't willing to sell."

So depending on what portals you are making available you might say, "Would you care to try my coffee?" or whatever...

[yvr girl]

27. What if the final 'destination' is still up in the air?

It might be coffee. If things go well, it might be more than coffee.

[HereSince1628]

34. Well, as they say...one step at a time...you CAN be COY

and say something like, "Come in and try my coffee...If you like it I'll make you a pot in the morning."

But if I were giving advice to my daughter I'd say avoid creating a situation that potentially reduces your degrees of freedom. Invitations to greater intimacy are great, but...holding onto the option to say "thanks for the evening" is important.

[yvr girl]

46. Well to me, it's more if I like it.

I'm not auditioning to get into his bed. He's trying to get into mine. If he declines, no big loss. It's not exactly hard to find a man to have sex with.

[HereSince1628]

48. BINGO!!! I definitely heard a BINGO!

Appreciating that getting _sex_ is easy...The important issue is how to proceed with an intimate relationship while making sure you can protect yourself.

This takes me back to my first comments...be careful about how you communicate what is being offered.

The "little" head (the glans of the penis) preempts a lot of thinking that should be done by the "big" head. The little head is a LOT less rational than the big head when it is functioning properly.

My first hope is that you can manage the circumstance so that you don't get hurt.

[yvr girl]

51. Well thanks for your concern

Your daughter sounds like she has a great father.

I could be accused of being too cautious. Although, that really applies to love. Don't worry, I always keep safety in mind.

[Nicholas D Wolfwood]

65. Lemme let you in on a little secret.

Whether it's "do you want to come in for coffee?" or "wanna come do dishes with me?", any time you invite a guy on a date in, he will be in attack mode. Bet on it.

[arcane1]

2. body language

never fails

well almost never

[liontamer]

18. body language often fails

many people need explicit instructions

[LSK]

45. I agree, im one of them

[arcane1]

59. you mean like "spread"?

:silly:

[liontamer]

3. spread?

:shrug:

[yvr girl]

5. I don't want to put on a show for the neighbours

I'm not that kind of girl.

[liontamer]

19. the say "why don't you come in?" n/t

[Worst Username Ever]

4. Gratuitous nudity.

You heard me, Mr. Gratuitous.

[gratuitous]

7. It's always worked for me

Even when it hasn't worked.

[yvr girl]

8. How many women have been gratuitously

nude for you?

[gratuitous]

15. Well, I don't like to brag

But the next one (by my count) will number 1.

[aden_nak]

6. "What are you going to want for breakfast?"

[yvr girl]

9. I like that,

flirty, yet subtle.

[slinkerwink]

10. "want some coffee?" or "want some wine?"

[yvr girl]

12. A new riff on

Coffee, Tea or Me?

[kcwayne]

11. Republican girls put something behind their ears to accomplish this..

Their ankles!

Seriously though, a simple would you like to come in for a nightcap or coffee usually works.

[salvorhardin]

13. Please, for the lover of krishna,

when dealing with techies, please spell out exactly what you mean. Sometimes we can be a little dumb when it comes to these kinds of things. :-)

[yvr girl]

14. So should a lady bring a

Tim Russert white board and marker with her on a date so that she can draw a diagram?

[salvorhardin]

17. Well, flowcharts are better but...

that's the general idea! :-)

[yvr girl]

20. Break out the Visio, girls

I never new the way to a man's heart was through a flowchart.

Oh wait, hearts are not necessarily in play are they?

[aden_nak]

16. Seconded.

I also suggest never asking, "Do you want to come up?" especially with a non-alpha-male type. A better way to phrase it would be, "Why don't you come up for a bit?" As a frequent over-analyzer of relatively unimportant linguistics, I find the second choice to be more socially comfortable.

[the Princess]

26. Same answer as before

Be naked and have something fried! LOL

[yvr girl]

28. Fried.

We're very health conscious here on the west coast.

[the Princess]

29. Even the healthiest health nut guy from CA

would eat fried chicken from a naked woman............am I right guys??? LOLOL

[bearfan454]

30. You are right.

I love fried chicken too.

[yvr girl]

31. I was forgetting the naked part

It adds something to every recipe.

Do you think a book of naked recipes would sell?

[the Princess]

35. Are you kidding me??

Just put naked women in it and no man is gonna care if the recipes are good or not. Sorry gentlemen but you know I'm right. You would make a million. LOL

[yvr girl]

39. But would a man find the book?

I have a feeling the cookbook section is not a part of the bookstore they frequent.

[the Princess]

43. You put it up front with a stadnup of a naked woman

Holding the book strategically. :)

But ya know men have homing devices when it comes to naked women - they would find it. LOL

[liberalhistorian]

50. So, does that work with

Mr. COliberal? :evilgrin: :bounce:

[CO Liberal]

53. You'de Be Surprised What Works With Me

:evilgrin:

[liberalhistorian]

55. Hey, you're a man and

it ain't hard to figure out what works with almost all men as long as the road leads to the same place!!

[the Princess]

56. Aint that the truth!? LOL

Men are sooooooooo easy! :)

[8-6-PDB]

33. Mmmmm, fried chicken...

...and naked women!

^^^^^obvious attempt at post whoring. Please forgive me!:)

[chuckrocks]

32. BAA HAA

just don't fry it in the buff. ouch!

[yvr girl]

36. Very wise

I was multi-tasking once. Long story short - bacon spatters hurt.

[the Princess]

37. That goes without saying............I think. :)

[yvr girl]

Have you never done an un-wise thing

when you were in a hurry? It's how accidents happen.

[the Princess]

44. Yeah I got married! LMAO

Sorry honey it was a joke! LAUGH!! LOL

[CO Liberal]

49. I'm Laughing!!!!

:-)

I'd say the same thing, but it involves my ex-wife #2.....

[DS1]

38. offer some roadhead

:-O

[SarahB]

40. Men are usually pretty easy.

Usually I say.

[yvr girl]

42. Newsflash - MEN ARE EASY

This started as a copycat thread. But, hey. I'm having fun.

[HEyHEY]

41. Grab his package and say "I'm not easy or anything, but...."

[yvr girl]

47. Grab. No. I always unwrap my packages very carefully!

Drives people crazy.

[BiggJawn]

52. "Do you like hand-made quilts? I have one..."

Even though a guy like me would be so dense he'd let it totally go over his head....

Or be so amazed at his good fortune that he convinces himself that he heard you wrong....

[yvr girl]

54. Are men really that dense?

I spent hours on the phone as a teenager discussing the exact meaning of something a guy has said. I guess we're more tuned into the subtext of a conversation.

[BiggJawn]

60. We tend to be Literalists.

If you say, standing in the doorway, smiling coyly, "There's something wrong with the ceiling fan in my bedroom. Do you know anything about those?"

A LOT of guys would go get their toolbox from the car, and actually be disappointed that the fan was running just fine...

And you wasted a lot of time when you were a kid. If a guy says "I'm really tired, I think I should go home..." chances are, he's really tired. either that, or he wants to get back to the "Most Extreme Elimination Challenge" marathon on "SpikeTV".

Oh-one thing that *IS* the same, wheter you're a man or woman?
"I still want to be FRIENDS" means "I hope you fucking get hit by a car on the way home and I never have to see you again, but I'm too much of a weenie to tell you straight-up, so...."

[camero]

57. Naked

That usually works.

[hippiechick]

58. Gitcher' ass in here an gimme some !

Tends to work for me ...

:evilgrin:

[GOPisEvil]

64. Yeah....we men HATE hints.

The direct route works best. :D

[Lydia Leftcoast]

61. I ask them if they'd like to come in for a glass of sherry

No, really. But your favorite easily poured beverage may be different.

[Anarcho-Socialist]

62. For some reason, after reading this thread I have a taste for

Fried Chicken.

[CO Liberal]

63. Happy to Oblige.....