Does anyone get offended if someone doesn't answer your P.M.s

[Longgrain]

Nothing personal brought this up mind you, It's just that a few times it's happened that, someone P.M.ed me, and I didn't reply either because I was too busy or it was too late at night, or by the time I got the message the poster's thoughts were no longer relivant...

I usual respond to nearly all my P.M.s at least out of courteousy to acknowledge that I received the message. But if I don't answer them I feel as if I'm snubbing someone...

Or am I just taking this whole thing too seriously...:shrug:

[LynzM]

1. Offended? Generally not.

Disappointed that someone didn't feel like I was worth replying to? Sometimes. But, life happens, and so I get over it. It would probably be different if it were a friend who chose to ignore me....

[Longgrain]

5. I guess your right

Sometimes I go days without a message, other times I'll have two or three conversations going on at one, I can't keep up with them all...funny how that is sometimes...

[Padraig18]

2. No.

They still put erasers on pencils, even in the year 2005, and people just forget some times...

:)

[CubsFan1982]

3. Nay.

I don't usually use it all that much.

[BiggJawn]

4. Depends.

If we're 5-6 notes into an exchage, and there's nothing left to say, no.

But the first PM? or the first repsonse? Yeah, I feel blown-off.

[bahrbearian]

6. I have the same guilt trip.

[Longgrain]

8. Like I said, I hope I'm not taking this too seriously

I just feel that if someone takes the time out to write me that I at least write them back...tho there have been a couple times I didn't and I felt bad about it...

Oh well...:)

[Stop_the_War]

7. not so much with p.m.'s but with threads, if nobody replies,

I will be very offended.

[Longgrain]

11. Then you should go and order everyone to go find a thread

with zero replies and go answer it...God knows I've done it before (and have had it happen to me)

[frictionlessO]

9. never offended but sometimes sad....

I usually get paranoid after a few unanswered ones that I've been put on ignored.

[fluffernutter]

15. i miss your pm's, mister.

:*

[frictionlessO]

16. Ahhh ya big silly! I responded to your last... but alas no reply.

I always look forward to yours... and miss 'em.... terribly.
:cry:

[fluffernutter]

24. you know i love yours too.

and it's great to see you here!

cypm.

[auntAgonist]

10. I don't mind.

Often times when I send a PM it's usually a note of encouragement or some such thing. If people don't respond that's ok.

:hi:

[Longgrain]

21. I actually just rsponded to one of your messages...

Thanks and good luck...:hi:

[auntAgonist]

23. thank you for responding!

and thanks for the good wishes.


:)

[Bok_Tukalo]

12. I have only had four PM conversations in three years here

so I might not be the best person to ask.

[Longgrain]

13. Not to make you jealous man...

But if I could show you some of the conversations I've had...;-)

[Bok_Tukalo]

14. I'm not sure two of mine count since they were directions to meetups

The other two were interesting though.

[Skittles]

17. only if I was asking a question

DUers are very good about responding though

[FuzzySlippers]

18. Longgrain, you bastard!

I've sent you dozens of PMs, and you've never responded. You betcha I'm offended!

[Longgrain]

19. I've read your P.M.s You should be ashamed of yourself!

I'm one step away from alerting you, you know!

[FuzzySlippers]

31. I'm sorry.

x( I'll try not to be so naughty in the future.

[Longgrain]

32. Take this girl...

:spank:

Your lucky I don't put you on ignore!

[khashka]

20. Offended? Certainly.

You have never once answered any of my PMs. Which I consider rude, ill-mannered and just downright mean. (The fact I never sent you any is entirely irrelevant.)


Seriously, some PMs demand a response and others don't. I've gotten a few PMs that there is simply no response to, usually along the lines of "I agree with what you said". I suppose Miss Manners would say that I should say "thank you" and I usually do. But usually I think "So you'll agree with me privately but not in public?"

I do try to answer PMs simply because it's good manners. After all, someone took the time to converse with me. "Hi, nice to hear from you", "Thanks!", and "Aw shucks it weren't nothin' " are pretty easy things to type.

So you might be taking it too seriously, but on the other hand there are real people trying to talk to you and if you don't talk back feelings can get hurt, offers of friendship can seem to be rejected, etc.

But I'm still mad at you for not answering any of my PMs.

Khash.

[fluffernutter]

22. i agree.

check your pm ;)

[Bouncy Ball]

25. I usually forget I sent the person a PM!

LOL!

[xmas74]

26. I usually forget to check my pm's.

It might be two days before I find out that I have one. By then, someone could be really upset w/ me.

[Longgrain]

27. Who could be upset with you?

Just sedate them with some Lime Kool Aid laced with Vodka...:7

[xmas74]

29. Who could be upset w/ me?

You need to ask Mr. Jabba about that (he never forgave the restraining order).

As to lime kool-aid

does this help?

You'll have to find some vodka-no time here!

mix it yourself-I like mine strong!

[jonnyblitz]

28. nope. people usually don't answer mine but I don't send many

plus I dont send them FOR a response unless I ask a question. I get plenty of online "traffic" from non-DU sites that would satisfy that need. that being said, I ALWAYS respond to PMs.

[qnr]

30. Don't send any, except in reply to the occasional one sent to me. n/t

[Freebird12004]

33. If I was asking a question it would up-set me.

If I'm not asking a question - I don't get up-set. I realize everyone is busy so I wouldn't take it personally the first time.

I do answer PMs.