Are you lonely? If you answered yes, well...

[Chuckup]

your heart may be in trouble, for real.
http://www.healthtalk.ca/social_heart_050105_34993.php

[FreedomAngel82]

1. Interesting

I guess I'm screwed then.

[Chuckup]

2. All the lonely people

where do they all come from?

[Bok_Tukalo]

3. They come from a life of poor choices and fear of choosing

They slip and slide through the days until they find themselves where they are and it is too late.

[FreedomAngel82]

4. Not necessarily

That's really not fair of you to say. How do you know why someone is lonely?

[Bok_Tukalo]

5. Just an observation

from personal experience.

[FreedomAngel82]

6. Ah

Well not from mine. :shrug: Everybody is different really. With me, personally, I'm too busy with school to make friends and all the one's I knew from high school except one don't talk to me anymore. Heh heh. :shrug: Oh well. Life is still life.

[Skittles]

7. nonsense

I fear wishing I was alone much more than being alone

[Bok_Tukalo]

8. There's a difference between being lonely and and being alone

<ope>

[FreedomAngel82]

11. Very true

[Skittles]

12. I have found that lots of folk who are "lonely"

just cannot stand their own company - they're not used to doing things alone. They can't go to a movie alone or out to eat alone - it's quite pitiful.

[Lorien]

16. Can't or don't want to?

I'm almost always alone. I have pets and I'm comfortable with being alone, but I do get lonely from time to time. If I want to see a movie alone, I'll rent one from Netflix. If I want to eat alone, I'll cook myself dinner. Why spend money on gas, tickets, dinner, tips etc. if it's not going to be a shared experience? The purpose in going out, IMO, is to see your friends on neutral turf where one doesn't feel like a guest and the other doesn't feel the pressure of being a host. I'm a good cook, and I'm a tightwad. Dinner and movies alone sound overly indulgent, wasteful, and bloody boring to me.

[Skittles]

20. it's not boring at all

some movies have to be seen on the big screen!

[Conservativesux]

22. Nice to meet a fellow traveler.

I too pity those who will do anything to not be alone and cant seem to go anywhere without company.

[Skittles]

23. well, Lorien just seems more comfortable at home

I live alone and get a bit stir-crazy and have to get out - but it's true, I've known many people - especially women, who must have company and it is a bit sad to me. Not to mention that you increase your chances of meeting someone if you get out there!

[Lorien]

28. I didn't say that I was more comfortable at home

I said that I use my resources for dinner and movies when I want to meet with friends. I don't want to clean the house up for company. I don't want to wash loads of dishes every week. I'd rather meet them someplace where other people can do that. I don't have vast financial resources to throw away on an evening of self indulgence. If I really want to treat myself, I'll save my pennies and go to Paris (use to spend four day weekends there regularly when I HAD money). To each his or her own.

[Skittles]

39. OMG I can relate to you there

my apt is a disaster right now - I work 12 hour shifts at night and marvel at how badly the place falls apart when I seemingly spend so little time there during my work days. On my first day off I do a major cleanup and then it goes to hell again. YUP I have declined to have people over because of it. :D

[Lorien]

26. TRAVEL is different

I've traveled all over Britain, Europe, and the North American continent alone. I just know where to spend my money and time (since both are limited). The AMC and Bravo don't hold a candle to Switzerland.

[Skittles]

40. what is that black/white cat's name?

that is one cool face

[Lorien]

41. Miro

after Juan Miro the abstract painter-though he's more often called Jabbacat, Buddhacat, or Fatty Lumpkin, lol!

[Lorien]

24. Our big screens come with obnoxious kids

no thanks. My TV is big enough!

[Huckebein the Raven]

27. I usually pick a matinee showing or a very late showing

It helps a little at the theatre I go to.

:)

[Lorien]

29. I live near Disney World

There is no theater at any time of day without obnoxious kids. When I go with friends to the theater, we have a hell of a time finding seats that won't get kicked throughout the show.

[Huckebein the Raven]

30. I probably wouldn't go to the theater either if I was in your situation

that sucks

[xmas74]

25. I can do those things on my own no problem.

I just get really lonely for adult conversation. I have neither the time or the money for dating. Sometimes I just wish for someone to share things w/ and I sometimes wish that I had someone there for me at the end of the day who could help cheer me up when I am down.
It just gets really hard raising my daughter on my own sometimes.

[Huckebein the Raven]

31. I feel the same way

I would like have someone to sit down with and watch a movie, joke around with, carry on a discussion, etc.

I don't know.....

:shrug:

[xmas74]

32. Maybe it is because my main conversations

in person are w/ a four year old or about that same four year old. sometimes, I just want something more.

[Huckebein the Raven]

33. I understand

[xmas74]

34. It really sucks sometimes

[Huckebein the Raven]

35. That it does

You'll eventually find someone

:)

[xmas74]

37. when my daughter is older I might have more time

[Huckebein the Raven]

38. That's understandable

:)

[sundog]

9. that was deep

:hi:

[FuzzySlippers]

14. I just heard on the news

that this doesn't hold true for women. That women's health often improves after divorce while men's gets worse.

[Conservativesux]

15. If you factor in that divorced women receive much more support then

a divorced man does, both financially and emotionally, then you would have to factor that into the equation.

[FuzzySlippers]

19. Divorced women receive much more support financially?

How do you figure that?

[Conservativesux]

21. Alimony and the sale of shared assets are a couple.

These days women inititate more divorces then men, so they are often better prepared for the divorce.

[Bok_Tukalo]

42. Ain't that the truth

<ope>

[alarimer]

17. Some people are lonely because they are not extroverts

As discussed in another thread. But preferring to be alone does not necessarily mean one is lonely so I don't know how that fits in with the whole heart thing.

[Lorien]

18. More often they come from abusive homes

suffer from chronic depression, anxiety attacks, social phobias, or have been raped (in the case of many women). Those aren't "poor choices"-that's either mental illness or a learned distrust.

"fear of choosing" what does that mean? Are you talking about men with a fear of commitment?

[Longgrain]

10. Life sucks, then you die of heart trouble...

It's the way of the world.x(

[Individualist]

13. I live alone but don't feel lonely

I do have good friends, but my only immediate family is my brother who is a typical republican - asshole. As for heart disease, it's a hereditary factor on my father's side, and I do have coronary artery disease.

[maveric]

36. Ah shit! Now I'm having chest pains! FUCK!

Thanks buddy!