I kinda need a hug...

[leftist_rebel1569]

I had a horrible day today. Normally I always have bad days on Halloween, but today was particularly bad. Now, keep in mind i'm hopelessly lonely...I'm starting to doubt if there actually is light somewhere towards the end of the tunnel when it comes to my relationship life. That, and there's growing rifts between me and pretty much all of my friends, mostly because of me and my stupidity of handling my emotions. But anyways, about my day...

This morning, I got out of bed late and I was rushed to do all of this stuff in the whole half hour time before I had to be at school, so I was stressed before I even got there. Then, during the day, I was constantly reminded of my love life - I kept seeing all these couples, and they're all so happy and laughing and having fun...up to this point, i've been able to handle it for a while now. I've forgotten about how lonely I was...until today. Anyways, reminders were everywhere. I bumped into 2 old crushes today, one of them three times in the halls. I had a huge crush on her over the summer, and I eventually got over it, or so I thought. It's like it's coming back, but I KNOW I have no chance with her. So, not only was I reminded of what it must be like to be in a relationship, I was reminded of the impossible odds I faced in getting one.

So, school was hell. When I came home, that was all I could think about. So, to try and forget about it, I went over to one of my friend's house. And, while I was there, I got to catch a good 10 seconds of my friend and his girlfriend making out...like, full force. About now, it was 7:00, and the trick-or-treaters were out. So, on my bike ride home, I saw another couple, holding hands and kissing. By now, I was thinking "...ugh. Christ, I hate PDA". Then, I got home, and a couple of my friends IMed me, telling me about their nights. With their girlfriends. I simply couldn't take it anymore at this point. I had gone from being completely happy with myself and not having a care in a world (yesterday) to being completely depressed about how much my love life sucks and was gonna suck for a long time, therefore rest of life sucks and will suck for a long time (today). I basically put an away message up and turned on my music...and I cried. Way too much for one day (christ, I hate being emotional). After about 10 minutes, I stopped crying and just laid on my floor, watching minute after minute go by on my clock. And now i'm here, because I need to vent this somehow.

So, DU, that was my day. I hope this didn't bore you enough to ruin your festive moods, which i'm still kinda wondering about, with all the freeping stuff...anyways, thanks for reading this. All hugs are appreciated...

[DUreader]

1. BIG HUG

[Habibi]

2. Oh, man.

I had days like that in college, too. The PDAs (Public Displays of Affection) are everywhere, and it just makes you want to curl up in bed with the covers over your head.

But know this: it will pass. Without looking for it, love will sneak up on you and you will find a good person to be happy with. In the meantime, keep busy with what interests you. That is what will attract the right person to your side.

Bless, and hugs.

[roguevalley]

3. be emotional. you're young, right?

Things will come in their own time. Just don't try and force it. That is what makes you so miserable. Your time is coming. Just hugs and take care and remember, your time is coming.

RV, who remembers being young and impatient and amazing at how rough
life was as a youngster and how it did all turn out in the end okay.
Truly.

[Kat45]

4. Here you go...

Here's a big hug for you ((((((leftist_rebel1569))))))

Your mood will pass. I've had that happen on more than one occasion, a day when all I see is happy couples and I get really bummed out that I don't have anyone, or any prospects. Usually by the next day (or two), after getting back to the normal mode of my life, the feeling recedes and I'm feeling ok again.

[Swede]

5. Sounds like a friday from heck. Every day is not going to be fun dude.

Just hang in and the worm will turn. Someone special will fall into your life when you least expect it.

[silverchair]

6. i share your pain

i spent a lot of lonely days in my time. i didn't meet my g/f until i was 26. before that, i was so lonely and miserable. everyone around me was in relationships and seemed to be happy. eventually things turn around and you will meet someone. ironic thing is that sometimes i get lonely and depressed even though i am in a relationship. my g/f and i have been through a lot and lately we actually need some time apart. sorry to talk about myself so much. i know how you feel. trust me. in due time you will meet someone that is perfect for you. please don't give up. i hope you have a better day. take care and talk to us anytime here on DU. :hi:

[Girlfriday]

7. Here's a big hug for you!

:hug:

[qwertyMike]

8. I feel it too a lot

I am much older than you and was separated from my family when my kids were infants. They went to a remote place (Long story) where I could only get to once a month. And so on.
That was 12 years ago and my kids are teens now and I see them a lot more.
BUT for years I was just like you especially weekends, especially from 5pm Friday when everyone was 'home' for the weekend. Saturdays were awful. Couples, families everywhere.

So I know those feelings well, except it was EVERY week, not just holidays.
It affected me so I couldn't really have other relationships to ease things. Proper ones anyway.
It takes work to quell those feelings. Like the previous poster said, to develop *your* interests and passions. Sitting around doesn't cut it. But the work pays off. I'm now a crusty old bachelor, satisfied with things, and my kids, well soon they'll be living here. College and all that. And they visit a lot now.
Women, well here and there. Just never got the hang of the relationship thing again.
We make our own paths.

This is where I'd have said God Bless you at one time
:)

[Droopy]

9. Man I can't tell you how impressed I am

about how well you can express yourself. You should really think about becoming a writer. I think back to when I was your age and I couldn't do the things that you can.

About the chicks. Just hold on, man. You're so young. That will come and some day you'll meet the right one and you'll think,"God, what was I stressin' about." Believe me, dude, you've got plenty of time to work that stuff out. Don't worry about what your friends are doing. By the way you are, I can tell, you'll be with the love of your life in no time. Hang in there.

[pink_poodle]

10. Wow!!!! I didn't know guys did this. You are soooooooo cool.............

When I have a day like that, I throw myself down on the floor, the bed, whatever, and I could go nuts. I put on some music. Something loud and annoying to everyone else. Arghh! I hate how you are feeling. Mostly I get that way out of sheer frustration. Hugs from me and also my two little Pekingese dogs!!!

[leftist_rebel1569]

12. Wow, a chick that actually digs my sensitivity...

:loveya:

And yeah, some guys do this. I'm not the only one, as you prolly can tell from a couple of the guys on the thread...

[newyawker99]

25. (((((HUGS)))))

:hug:

[Swede]

13. Yep,we got your back PP if you need us.

DU is a cool cool place. And welome bye the bye.

[leftist_rebel1569]

11. thanks guys

a big hug back :grouphug:

I noticed some of you said that i should try to focus on something other than them. The thing is with that, is that it's really, REALLY hard NOT to focus attention on it. I mean, I tried pretty hard to do it before today (i've had problems with this before btw), and it all came rushing back in. Oh well....at least the posts on the thread are starting to make me feel better. Thanks a lot. :)

[WannaJumpMyScooter]

14. You need a hobby of some kind.

I think.

[SOteric]

15. For you lefty,

:hug:

[WannaJumpMyScooter]

17. I thought you must have tottered off to bed... 0430 comes early,

don't it?

[SOteric]

19. It does. I had to call Europe.

And I logged on to mess around while I talk.

I'm leaving for bed again in less than 10 minutes. :hi:

[Race4Peace]

16. dun worry, were all in this together,man

:hug:

[E_Zapata]

18. Here's an idea for you:

This may sound strange, but it seems the opposite sex is just a little too elusive and mysterious for you. Therefore, I recommend that you EXPLORE the world of 'women' another way (not dating).

Join a Goddess Study Group, for example. Sounds nuts, but there is nothing more appealing to a woman than a man who quests to know what it means to be a woman. Women are complex beings. They are the gardeners of the soul.

Or some other female-centric study.

Trust me - if you enter the female sphere, I have a feeling an angel will fall right into your arms.

and goodness, you are sensitive enough to understand women.

Kooky idea, huh?

[AlienGirl]

20. Big hug from another lonesome DUer

All my roomies are dressed up in their "retro" gear, partying, and I had to work till eleven at night, so now work's done and I'm sitting home alone feeling like crap. And my ex-husband's new girlfriend and I IM'd today and she's so nice I can't even hate her...

Tucker

[DoNotRefill]

21. Enjoy it while you can....

eventually, you'll find that special someone and marry them, and then your life will be a living hell. You'll find yourself wishing you were alone again, and never heard of the "honeydew" list.

I love my wife. I hate being tied down. I'm miserable now, and I'd be miserable without her. Life sucks. Where's my helmet? ;-)

[Nlighten1]

22. Big Hug

Cheer up dude.

[LeftPeopleFinishFirst]

23. aw

hey, i am sorry you had such a rotten day. I'm leaving for Massachusetts soon but i'll be on later tonight if you need to talk.

ps- i like boys who cry. :)

[VelmaD]

24. Oh Little Bit...

I hate to think of you crying. :hug:

Sorry I missed this last night and I hope you're feeling better this morning. Have another one. :hug:

You know we're here for you Little Bit. With hugs and well-intentioned cliches. :-) It will get better baby. But you keep right on feeling. It's really neat that you feel so much and that you're able to express it so well for someone so young.

[Kamika]

26. cheer up

Im single too. Its not that bad

[GinaMaria]

27. not to lecture you

just want to share what I've learned. Appreciate what you have when you have it.

When single you are carefree. Do things according to your schedule. Follow your whims.... you get the idea spend the time focused on the good things about being single.

When in a couple, enjoy the things about being a couple and don't focus on how much easier single life was.

Second thought... re: the crush
Sometimes the heart gets a little confused. This crush is probably a lot like the person you will end up with. They may be spiritually similar or look alike or something. There just happens to be something about the crush that isn't exactly right. The more focused on the crush you are the less open you are to the right one.

Nothing should stop you from being happy with who you are, especially not PDA and couples. They aren't saying anything about you. Everyone has heartache and lonliness in their life at some point. Learn what you can about yourself during these times. And remember this isn't permanent. Feelings are transient. They are for the moment. You won't always feel this way. If you look past the couples you may see someone who is alone and needs a friend.

Okay, I'm done. I hope this didn't sound like a lecture. I didn't intend for it to be.

Big virtual hug coming your way. Pass it on to someone else who needs it when you are done :-)

Peace

[Rhiannon12866]

28. You have to know I share your pain, leftist_rebel!

Big hugs from me and all my four-legged friends. Perhaps you can receive some solace from yours. You know I care!:pals:

[HEyHEY]

29. Okay dude

I don't consider myself a cassanova and even I had girls in high school. Stop worrying about it...trust me when I was your age I always figured.."no way am I gonna get a woman" thenI had a sack full of them come my way. Don't sweat it it'll happen.- j