I got called a Lesbian today - was I supposed to be offended?

[KitchenWitch]

Long story, basically I moved a woman's cart out of the way at a store...she got mad at me, I told her that it was inconsiderate for her to park her cart that way, and then she called me a Lesbian. I wish I had been thinking more quickly...

I was not offended by being called a Lesbian, by the way. I was offended at her overall rudeness.

[RevCheesehead]

1. You should have told her you were a drag queen.

You gotta keep those fundies on their toes! :evilgrin:

[XemaSab]

2. I dunno...

Have you ever recieved a toaster that you don't remember ordering? :shrug:

Meh, she was probably looking for a date....

[Whoa_Nelly]

3. I would have laughed my head off!

To have someone use "lesbian" as a slur would have completely undone me!

:rofl: :rofl::rofl::rofl::rofl::rofl::rofl::rofl::rofl::rofl::rofl::rofl:

I might have hurled, "Republican!" back at her!

[Floogeldy]

4. Yes, you were "supposed to be" offended.

;)

[Deja Q]

5. Yup. But she sounds senile. I wouldn't have told her that, though.

Especially if she called ME a lesbian... that really would be bizarre...

Still, there are people in this society that will shoot their pet pooch, believing it to be homosexual. Be glad that weird lady wasn't the same way; shooting people by thinking they have homosexual tendencies, whatever those may be...

[edbermac]

6. You should have told her you were a Republican.

:evilgrin:

[nini]

13. this reminds me - someone told my mom she looks like Barbara Bush once

My mom told them that was the insulting thing anyone had ever said to her. :rofl:

The guy didn't laugh.

[BlueIris]

7. It's sounds like she was using the word 'lesbian' pejoratively.

So, yeah, that's pretty offensive.

[Redstone]

25. I'd certainly never use the word "lesbian" as an insult.

Hey, I like women, so why shouldn't women like women?

(I'm not being a smartass here. I wouldn't ever use "homo" or the like as an insult either. Guy-on-guy doesn't appeal to me, but it's not my business to tell anyone else how to live their life. You're a guy who likes other guys, rather than women? Fine with me. One of my sons tells me some day that he's gay? Wouldn't make him any less of my son.)

Redstone

[BlueIris]

40. Well, of course you wouldn't, Redstone. That's why you're my favorite.

:-)

[Redstone]

46. Why, thank you, BI. I like you, too. Even when we disagree.

Redstone

[momophile]

8. dang! are people really this terrible?

I agree with you that it's not an insult, but she obviously intended it to be. Amazing!

[jonnyblitz]

9. you get mad that it's presumed to be an insult to be called that.

that's totally understandable. it's the same for "liberal" although they probably think lesbian is a much worse thing to accuse somebody of being.

[elshiva]

10. Homophobia is crap.

I only wish you were a lesbian. ;)

[KitchenWitch]

11. I find the whole situation to be surreal!

Like I said I wish I had my wits about me...I would have said something like "Homophobic much? Am I supposed to be offended by that?"

[Jamastiene]

29. One of the best comebacks to that is

Well, it takes one to know one, toots.


of course, it would be wise to duck after saying that. :evilgrin:

[KitchenWitch]

30. Duck

She was about a foot and a half shorter than me...I could have nearly stepped over her, much like a speedbump.

[Jamastiene]

32. In that case, I guess jump.

In either case, look out for the reflex swing they always throw at that one liner. :evilgrin:

[Redstone]

45. Or: "Yes, I am, wanna go over to my place?"

Redstone

[nini]

12. You should have asked her if she was asking you out on a date

then sweetly say that you heard grocery stores were great pickup places - but thanks, but no thanks.

[KitchenWitch]

15. I will remember that next time!

She was one of these that was talking loudly on her cellphone...

[Montauk6]

28. I was thinking the same: "That's your best pickup line? Sad..."

[UncleSepp]

35. I've done that before

It usually shuts them up.

[Thtwudbeme]

51. GMTA!!

I would have died laughing, and told her that no one had ever tried to pick me up in the grocery store, and then said, "That is a huge compliment! But, no thank you-"

Years ago, a woman in a drugstore in Cleveland, OH asked me about retiring to Asheville NC--where I was living at the time. She whispered very loudly, but in that "conspiracy voice," "I heard there aren't many blacks there."

I whispered back just as loudly, "Oh, I don't think you'll have a problem, I NEVER would have been able to guess you were black if you hadn't told me. Your skin is so light!" And walked off leaving her with her mouth hanging wide open....presumably so she could fit her other foot in.

[GreenPartyVoter]

14. Next time you gotta say, "Your husband can tell you otherwise"

[bleedingheart]

17. that was the best one!!!

hahahahha

[GreenPartyVoter]

20. *cheeky grin*

[NMMNG]

16. What was she, 12 years old? Using "gay/lesbian" as an insult is so

middle school. :eyes:

You should have asked her if she was still peeved because her husband ran off with the gardener. :rofl:

[complain jane]

18. "Don't flatter yourself, honey" would have been my response.

Usually leaves 'em with their mouth gaping in the middle of their bright red mortified face.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

19. I think you handled it just fine, my dear KW....

I would have had a hard time coming up with the snappy come-back too...

She sure as hell was rude, IMHO.....

[bammertheblue]

21. Oh jeebus...

I used to get called "Dyke" constantly in high school because I (gasp) had short hair and didn't dress like a hooker...it pissed me off because I was offended by their use of the word, not the connotation that I was a lesbian.

[KitchenWitch]

22. That is exactly how I felt too

[Lady President]

23. How Odd

What a strange insult-- I'm pretty sure it was supposed to be insulting. I've heard men called derogatory terms for being gay as an insult, but not women. Maybe this is a "we've come a long way, baby," moment. ;)

[LuCifer]

24. You shoulda told her she looked HOT!

THAT woulda freaked her ass out!

I use Carlin's line that he used to use when he got an earring and people would ask if he was gay: "BEND OVER AND FIND OUT!"

Lu

[Err]

26. I hate it when people use terms like that as insults.

How is it supposed to be insulting?

I don't get it. :shrug:

[KitchenWitch]

27. You got me by the ass

:shrug:

:eyes:

[EstimatedProphet]

31. That's truly bizarre, and I would have been mad too

One thing that always gets me is how people like to stop their carts or stand and have a conversation in the narrowest part of a walkway. It's as if on some level they're daring you to do something.

[KitchenWitch]

33. And I am the type of person who is actually aggressive enough

to just move their cart.

People drive like that too...slow down when there is no way you can pass them and speed up when you try to pass.

:nuke:

[Jamastiene]

34. Or they stand at the end of the aisle, talking to someone else

who is also standing at the end of the aisle blocking any entry or exit from that aisle on that end.

[hunter]

36. "You want me."

That's what I used to say as a young man.

It works especially well if you do that little sucky thing with your lips.

Then you get in a big fight, there's blood, and somebody calls the cops.

I'm sorta glad I'm not a young man any more.

[purr]

37. I got called that in hs..

Too bad I'm married and have 3 kids and never had any inclination. Some people I tell ya... Even if you WERE, what business is it of hers anyway?

Inconsiderate/stupid people.. :mad:

[Mad_Dem_X]

63. In HS, that was one of the prime insults

to call a girl you don't like a lesbian (or a "lezzie"). Grow up already! :eyes:

[Love Bug]

38. Dang, KitchenWitch, were you at Byerlys?

How rude! Usually Minnesotans will just glare at someone and talk about them out of earshot. She must not have been from around here.

[baldguy]

39. No, no...you've got it all wrong. She called you a "Lebanese".

[ucmike]

41. you should have just wagged your tongue at her suggestively.

then called her masturbater. and then loaded her cart with sex lube, douches, and contraceptives when she wasn't looking.

[MissMillie]

42. Someone got upset at you because you wouldn't let her block your way?

how strange!

[anarch]

43. that is truly bizarre

and isn't always long after the fact that we think of good responses to such stuff? At the time, especially when it is something as weird as this, it's just:

[jane_pippin]

44. What is she, in 1st grade? That's ridiculous.

You should have asked her to make out.

(kidding)

Seriously though, I hate when people act like that's some kind of insult. People need to wake up, but that would require them to stop being idiots and lord knows that won't happen any time soon. If it happens again, just say "Yeah, and?" ("So? Jealous?" would also work, I think.)

[ET Awful]

47. At least she didn't call you a Republican

:P

[Skittles]

48. I would not be offended being called a lesbian

I would, however, be offended that that bee-yatch thinks being a lesbian is a bad thing

[Metta]

49. Did you take her anger with you?

I get that impression. If so, you can return it by remembering the end of the episode and saying to yourself that you give her anger back to her. Then, breathe normally and relax for a few seconds. That should do it. Repeat if necessary. :)

[KitchenWitch]

54. Part of letting it go

was being able to chat about it.

I am cool now, just baffled though.

[MsAnthropy]

50. HAHAHA! So much for "Minnesota Nice"!

That's one of those times when I think of all the great things to say AFTERWARD! Her attempt at an insult says WAY more about her than it does about you.

[El Fuego]

52. When my freep friend calls me a "liberal," I know it's an insult.

Of course it's not really an insult, but I know HE considers it the most vile word in the English language. So when he spits the word Liberal, I know it's supposed to be an insult. Like they say, "It's the thought that counts."

She's a rude bitch and you should have told her so!

[KitchenWitch]

53. Oh, I told her she was rude

And so did the store manager!

[LostinVA]

55. You have freep friends?

Impressive -- I have none. I have to semi but up with my freeper BIL and semi-freeper sister, but friends or dates? NO WAY!

[khashka]

56. You mean you're not?

Damn! Now I have to go scrape off the "KW is a dyke" graffiti I spray painted all over town.

Khash.

[KitchenWitch]

57. LOL

I was more offended that this idjit thought that calling me Lesbian should be seen as an insult.

[Brewman_Jax]

58. You should have asked her

how she knew that you were from Lesbia. Also tell her how things are in Lesbia and that it's a beautiful country and she should go visit there on vacation.

Watch her head go :nuke:

[Oeditpus Rex]

59. Kitchy, what I think I might do

is recount the incident in a well-worded letter to the editor.

:evilgrin:

[KitchenWitch]

60. Funny idea

I just might!

[City Lights]

61. Been there!

:hi:

I was standing in line to check in for my mammogram. I was standing with my feet slightly apart with my weight on one foot and my hands folded in front of me. A man came up behind me pushing his wife in a wheelchair and rammed her right into my leg. His wife told him to be careful because he'd just hit my leg. He "whispered" to his wife, "She stands like a man, I bet she's a lesbian." I almost busted out laughing and had all I could do to keep from telling her how sorry I felt for her being married to such a jackass. When I told my sisters about it they said I should have tried to pick up his wife. :rofl:

Like you, I wasn't at all offended, just surprised at his complete lack of manners.

[JVS]

62. Lesbian? I could understand if she had used the D-word, but that's just..

strange!

[MiniMandaRuth]

64. People call me lesbian all the time.

And, if it weren't middle school, I would ask them why it's an offensive term?

I much more offended by being called fat than lesbian.

Good for you, KitchenWitch! Just stand up to her if you ever meet her again and she does something similar.

[Maestro]

65. Hey I've been hit on by more gay men

than straight women in my life. Should I be upset? No and neither should you. She was just some dimwitted woman who can't think on her toes so she just throws out some stupid slur she learned from her sexually deprived and frustrated friends.

[KamaAina]

66. Hell, I got called a "baby bloodsucking vampire lesbian whore"!

along with number of other people who were defending a New Orleans women's health clinic, by the head anti.

Oh, by the way, I am a male. :eyes:

[khashka]

70. "baby bloodsucking vampire lesbian whore"?

You are definitely my kind of people!

Khash.

[Ally McLesbian]

67. There is only one response to that.

"DYKE POWER!"

And I mean it. :)

[6000eliot]

68. Do lesbians park their carts differently?

Or do they just complain where straight women wouldn't?

[Solon]

69. I was called a faggot once...

My response was this: "Hey man, if you are looking for a date, look elsewhere, I just don't swing that way."

Turning the insult around is the best way to deal with assholes. Though the look on his face was priceless, about a minute later of course, he was slow on the uptake.

[Maine Mary]

71. Why be offended?

Just tell her "I know I'm so sexy that both genders find me attractive but...your jealousy gives you no license to be rude" Then just walk away. :evilgrin: