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The greatest blessing I can give my son is the ability to love and be loved by others. I've given him morals to live by, and I hope that these influence his choices of mate material. However: WHOMEVER he chooses to love, I will accept.
In-law manipulation has ruined relationships in my family in the past. I won't be one of those mothers who wants to be the first love in her son's life. I won't be around forever, and chances are that the mate he chooses will grow old with him. That's what he deserves, and that's what I'll never interfere with.
I just hope that I've raised him to choose a mate who will respect him, as well as expect respect from him. In short, as long as the person loves him and he loves the person, I'm delighted. Raising our children to have mature and loving relationships, based on mutual respect, should be as much of a priority of parents of younger kids as raising them to spend money wisely, get a good education, etc...all of the other things we as parents do.
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