Does anyone else have stupid fights with their SO at Christmas

[WannaJumpMyScooter]

Like over how the lights are going up. Or how you are breathing. Or letting the dog in our out.

Or whatever.

Cause I do.

[trof]

1. No sir!

We only have highly intelligent fights.
;-)
Sorry, I just hadda.

[dawgman]

2. Well my wife and I are fighting because one of our couple friends

is breaking up and she thinks I am taking the guys side. All I said was this; "Well, honey their might be more to the story than what Jessica is telling you. There are always to stories and the truth is usually somewhere in between."

[Mika]

3. Childhood regression

Tense times among our families at holiday times when we were children are often rekindled and replayed by us during the season. Much of it is programming. Don't do it to your children/ break the cycle. Reprogram with love kisses and hugs.

[WannaJumpMyScooter]

10. I am trying to do that. I had horrible holidays when I was a kid

things sucked.

[midnight armadillo]

19. 100% worse this year

You'd think the birth of our son would have helped matters. Nope! My mother has gone so far off the deep end to us that my wife has declared they will never speak again and I am considering demanding she enter therapy before I begin to even consider forgiving her for the things she's said to me recently.

This year's Xmas is the worst ever family-wise, althought it's out 3-month baby's first so that's nice!

[YellowRubberDuckie]

4. We had a five minute "discussion" about scotch tape...

We argued about what was better...clear tape or gift tape. What is wrong with us!? We never fight.
Duckie

[oneighty]

5. Winter Solstice

Is a time of great fear! The sun may not come back. Everybody bitchy about that possibility. I know I am concerned. Excuse me, I go do dance now.

Pan

[Nikia]

6. Winter is a hard time for me

My only non depression winters were in college and when the year I worked second shift and biked to work. My husband has been picking on me for not wanting to do anything and be in an unhappy mood. That makes me even worse. Fortunately, I always get better in the spring.
We haven't hung lights as a couple yet. That's probably a good thing.

[HereSince1628]

7. Clearly there is at least one positive facet of being a solitary

At least I am not arguing with myself.

I wonder how much of the holiday craziness is associated with the fear of adults being placed back into a pecking order they felt they had escaped? Consequently more than usual effort to reassert dominance...

[WWW]

8. Not with the SO this year

But inevitably someone always starts crying in the family the day we pick out and bring the Christmas tree home. 1. the tree isn't big enough, 2. the tree is too big, 3. the stand is broken, 4. the lights don't work, 5. the tree has fallen fully decorated, 6.I'M NOT GOING TO WATER IT, IT'S YOUR TREE! 7. the dog just urinated on the tree, 8. The cat just peed on the skirt, 9. there aren't enought presents under the tree, 10. there are too many presents under the tree, 11. the tree has fallen over again. Rinse and repeat. Just edited for spelling.

[Corgigal]

9. ah NOT yet

but we will on 12/26 the day before the in-laws arrive.

[populistmom]

11. We don't have to wait for Christmas

The holiday dysfunction is year round here because of well, about 1000 different things. :(

[rasputin1952]

12. Who doesn't?...

In fact, I had a neighbor who thought my Manger Scene was 'obscene'. I tossed the camel at him and told him he'd look pretty damn funny in the ER with that camel's head sticking out of his ass! Get this, he was a Fundie to boot!

O8)

[JohnKleeb]

13. No :(

because theres no one to fight with :cry:.

[Kathy in Cambridge]

14. My mother turns into a holiday witch and my Dad is tortured

my SO and I get along fine during the holiday season (less bickering than usual).

[WannaJumpMyScooter]

15. We used to be..... until........ KIDS.............arrrrrrraaaaagrrrrrgh

[SOteric]

16. It's a stressful time for a lot of people,

the world is filled with cranky, edgy, hypersensitive people trying to coexist with others of their kind as well as the irritatingly perky.

Arguments over how the lights go up, how to hang the T.P., or the appropriate way to wield a scotch tape dispenser aren't about those things. They're ways of saying "I'm hurt, disappointed, angry and afraid and you're here."

:hug:

You're a charming, witty, and quite wonderful man, Scooter. Find some downtime, do something you love just for yourself.

[WannaJumpMyScooter]

20. Ah shucks, thank ya maa'm

Please don't feed the ego too much. I might start believing it.

[rbnyc]

17. No, we're in it together...

...against the rest of the family.

;-)

[prolesunited]

18. That's THE secret

You have a common enemy. ;-)

No issues for me. Fighting with myself just isn't any fun and neither is the making up, for that matter. :D