Should I date a Republican? I posted earlier that I have joined eHarmony. I have received a match

[patricia92243]

from a guy that sounds super-duper. But in his profile he mentioned that he watched Fox news, and the latest book that he had read was "Culture Warrior" by O'Reilly!!!!!!!

I wouldn't care if a person was non-political (which most people are) but Republican??? I just don't know.

By the way, I'm 63 and don't know that I can afford to be that particular - but a Republican???? yeee - just can't decide.

What does everybody think.

:)

[redqueen]

1. BTDT... and I say NO! .... well, on second thought... maybe...

Well... maybe. I did manage to turn him after all.
:evilgrin:

It's your peace of mind to risk. Good luck. :hi:

[plcdude]

2. back away slowly

and when you are far enough away run like hell

[Justpat]

3. Hell no.

At his age he's approaching senility and any right wing beliefs
will just become more firmly entrenched in his mind.

[Redbear]

4. I dont know. Being a Republican is one thing ...

but choosing to read O'Reilly is a whole other level.

[Neshanic]

84. Agree, there's a whole world of hidden crazy Repubs, but actually function in day to day settings.

[AllegroRondo]

5. I would say NO

If he cares enough about politics to put that stuff in his profile, hes definitely not worth it. You'll be miserable.

[Taverner]

6. Find out how much of a republican he is

If he agrees with Bill, then dump his ass, as he'll be trying to turn you on with a loofa inside of a falafel.

[AlCzervik]

7. the fact that he's reading one of Blowholes book and admitting it

is somewhat alarming.

[Madspirit]

8. No

Your values will be different and that is one thing you won't be able to overlook. 60 is the new 40, so just relax. (52 here). You just joined eHarmony so give it more chance. You will find someone wonderful and a Democrat.
Madspirit

[MissB]

9. No.

Keep looking. Better to be single than horribly unhappy with an asshole boyfriend.

[myrna minx]

10. No. You deserve better!

:hug:

[SharonRB]

11. Computer says......no!

[NewJeffCT]

12. If he's a Republican

He's probably lying about something important...

[DainBramaged]

13. If you lived in NJ or I lived in NC I'd be at your doorstep with flowers and candy

Hope that he isn't a hater. Good luck, and may he see things your way.

[patricia92243]

26. :)

:)

[Critters2]

32. Did you check the "would be willing to move" box on your profile?

[grace0418]

14. I know there are some DUers who have Republican SOs but I don't know.

I think, like others have mentioned, it's distressing that he specifically mentions watching Fox News and reading Bill O'Reilly. That goes beyond being a Republican because you were raised a Republican and you don't follow politics enough to care. That's into ranting crazy librul-hating crap.

I'm surprised that eHarmony would pair you all up. It seems like the values of a Fox News Republican would be quite different than yours.

[MissMillie]

15. at 63, or any age, you should be particular

I would find it hard to be w/ someone who doesn't share my political philosophy.

[GoddessOfGuinness]

16. How does he sound super?

The fact that he's a FUX watcher and an O'Lielly fan makes him sound terribly unattractive to me.

Before you decide to meet him, I think you should make your political views clear.
There are people who can keep politics out of their relationships. These days, I can't say I'm one of them.

[patricia92243]

25. That's good advise. I just got his e-mail about Fox, etc. When I e-mail him back,

I'm going to say something about that I'm a strong Democrat. I'll probably never hear from him again:)

[LiberalHeart]

35. Ask him to introduce you to a liberal he can't stand.

That'll be the match made in heaven.

[sinkingfeeling]

17. No, you should have saved your money and looked for someone here

http://www.democraticsingles.net/home.php

[patricia92243]

40. I've looked around in there, and all the people my age have not been active on that board for years!

[Karenca]

18. watched Fox news, and the latest book that he had read was "Culture Warrior" by O'Reilly

don't.

That would be torture.

[Kerrytravelers]

19. I wouldn't waste my time.

Anyone who would admit to those things is a very scary individual indeed.

[RetroLounge]

20. No. Hell, No. Abosultely hell no...

RL

[Sequoia]

21. Date him and change his mind.

[querelle]

22. Why Not?

My dad is a staunch conservative and mom is quite liberal and they have a very successful marriage. 47 years this coming July. They just agree to disagree about certain things but still respect one anothers beliefs. Not ALL conservatives are overbearing assholes. My dad is proof of that. Go on a date with this gentleman and try to guage what he's like. If he's a knuckle dragging frothing at the mouth Freeper type, dump him real fast. But if he is a reasonable type of conservative (yes they exist), seriously consider building something with him. Just my $0.02.

Q

[Roon]

56. Yep!!

My Mother is a right wing conservative....and we get along GREAT!!...it just depends on the person.

[LanternWaste]

23. don't let any one thing be a deal-breaker...

Awww, Pat... don't let any one thing be a deal-breaker. I spent two years dating a perfectly nice young lady who also happened to be a conservative and we had a wonderful time going out.

No couple is ever going to agree on everything. Give it a chance and if nothing else, enjoy meeting a new person!

:)

(Disclaimer: I'm the LAST person in the world to give dating advice)

[LeftyMom]

24. There's a difference between a moderate Republican and Faux News watching O'Reilly reader

The former might be worth a shot, if everything else sounded great. The latter? :scared:

[Anarcho-Socialist]

33. I agree

FOX News viewer and O'Reilly reader does not good person make.

[Blue-Jay]

34. I have to agree with LM on this one.

I don't have many problems with a lot of people who aren't liberal Democrats. I really don't. BUT, starting a relationship with someone who considers Bill-O to be a serious "go-to guy" has more problems than you can fix. Be patient, and don't pick the low-hanging fruit.

[Richard Steele]

53. Yup, there sure is.

And if this guy is a Faux News & O'LIEly fan, I would wonder
how much of the 'great stuff' in his profile was even TRUE.

[Left Is Write]

27. I wouldn't.

The Republican part might be easier to deal with if he were moderate or open to other ideas, but anecdotal evidence tells me that is not typical of Fox News/Bill O'Reilly fans.

I cannot abide Fox "News" at all, and I would be unwilling to involve myself emotionally and romantically with someone whose views were apparently so widely different from mine.

[LSK]

28. no

I assume politics is a part of your life if you are on DU. So why would you want to share part of your life with someone who disagrees with you all the time. In addition, someone who believes Billo's BS allows himself to be lied to and is shallow and if I may even go so far as to say STUPID. But thats just my opinion.

[Dyedinthewoolliberal]

29. I think you should

RUN LIKE HELL!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :)

[huskerlaw]

30. NO

If he "mentioned" Fox and O'Reilly in his profile, he's not "just" a republican. He's drinking the Kool-Aid.

You would have NOTHING to talk about. And nothing of substance in common.

Run. Fast.

[Critters2]

31. That doesn't really sound like a match, to me.

I mean, how could he be super-duper? 63 or not, I couldn't do it. And this raises questions in my mind concerning e-Harmony's claims of being so good at this matching stuff. Better you should go to a few Dem events, than pay for this. Imho.

[YDogg]

36. No

At least he can read, though.

[Dude_CalmDown]

37. Are you kidding? If they would still admit to being a puke - what a deluded...

...moran they must be.

[KamaAina]

38. What does this tell us about eHarmony?

Apparently those 29 axes or whatever it is that they use aren't sufficient to pick up an obvious mismatch such as DUer <--> O'Really? reader.

Then again, Mom (liberal-moderate Dem) IS happily married to Stepdad (fairly moderate repuke, but won't take her to France)...

[Manifestor_of_Light]

63. Mom should go to France by herself. Watch him have apoplexy first.

I've known several controlling guys who had wives who went to Europe with a girlfriend, and they had hissy fits over it. Didn't stop the ladies from going though.

[Pendrench]

39. My wife is a Republican....we've been married for almost 12 years.

Obviously there are some things we disagree about, but we're on the same page on most things - especially when it comes to raising our 2 kids.

When you get to know the person (if you decide to do so), then you'll be able to see if the differences are too difficult to overcome.

Best of luck -

Tim

[BreweryYardRat]

41. Fox news isn't necessarily such a huge sin.

My dad's a Goldwater Republican and he watches Fox...but he does have the sense to take what they say with a grain of salt.

The O'Reilly thing, on the other hand...mmm, I don't know.

[Lydia Leftcoast]

42. My reaction to a potential suitor who is an O'Reilly fan can be summed up

by an immortal line from the musical Bye-Bye Birdie: "Man, I hope I never get THAT tense." :-)

I know it's harder after age 50, but I also have a wonderful liberal acquaintance who married for the first time at age 70. So don't sell yourself short.

[Mz Pip]

43. The fact that he mentioned

that he's a Republican who watches Fox and reads Orally leads me to believe his politics play a fairly important part in his life.

I know people who are Republicans who don't vote party line, think Fox sucks and are moderate on social issues. They are registered Repugs because they always have been. If this guy is a weak Repug then you might be able to push him in the direction of the Democrats.

One would think e Harmony would do a better job of filtering out those with major political differences.

I'd tell him what my political beliefs are and see what happens.

Mz Pip
:dem:

[patricia92243]

47. I have had several people say this. I looked at eHarmony again, and there is really not anything

that would separate the Democrats from the Republics.

There is a place where I can tell about myself. I have now gone back and changed it to say that I am a Democrat - but this is after I "met" the guy I'm talking about now.

I think after reading everybody's suggestions, I am going to e-mail him and let him know I'm a Democrat. I figure that will probably be the end of it. If not, I'll probably go out with him because he would know upfront what he is getting and that he should stay away from controversial subjects.

[Katherine Brengle]

44. My husband was a Republican when I met him...

but I edumucated him.

Of course, if he is around the same age, he may well be set in his ways.

One date couldn't really hurt, you just never know.

[Joey Liberal]

45. No way

You cannot date a republican. That would be like dating a Nazi.

[Mayberry Machiavelli]

46. Are you kidding with this post? You are kidding? Right? Right? Fox/O'Reilly? ???

[patricia92243]

48. Serious as a heart attack :)

:)

[Mayberry Machiavelli]

49. Are you familiar with the contents of the O'Reilly show? To me, anyone who would actually

buy one of that guy's books, meaning they agree with most of his odious commentary, and like his obnoxious asshole style, would pretty much make the whole thing a nonstarter.

I am a strong believer that there are far worse things than being alone.

[patricia92243]

51. truthfully, I have never watched O'Reilly. That is the reason I got upset at the Colbert Report - I

didn't realize it was a take off on Bill. Of course, I do know Bill is nuts from watching clips of him and from Keith and other discussing him.

[Arugula Latte]

50. RUN!!!!!!!

Let me reiterate: Run away. Right now.

[chaska]

52. Solitude has its virtues.

I'd rather die, personally.

[Connonym]

54. No, no, a thousand times no! You'll be setting yourself up for misery. n/t

[bertha katzenengel]

55. Go. With. Your. Heart. (and I am shocked . . .)

Stranger matches have been made. My sister - atheist. Her husband - F.E.C. Happily married for 25+ years.

:hi:

Edit: I am really shocked to read all of these summary dismissals of something that gives you some hope and excitement. Politics CAN be put aside. Politics are NOT the most important things in the world. Love IS the most important thing in the world.

[PittPoliSci]

57. do it!

give him a chance. if nothing else, his ridiculous republican ass should at least be good for an amusing date story. :-)

[Shine]

58. Frankly, what struck me most is that you're 63. How cool!!!

That's the same age as my single, divorced 35+yrs Mom and I would love, love, LOVE to get her hooked up with somebody, as a companion to date and have fun with.

Unfortunately, she's hyper-paranoid about the internet, in general, and the "lack of privacy", so I doubt she would ever consider checking out online services like eharmony.

It's too bad, cuz there's sooo many more benefits than detriments to computers, in my opinion.

Regarding your situation, I say:
follow up with an email or phone call and see how it goes from there.

Yes, you have major differences, but people rise above them all the time and still make a relationship work.

Trust your instincts. You'll know what to do when the time is right.

Good luck! :hi:

[VelmaD]

59. No

Anyone who supports the Republican platform doesn't really view you and other women as equal human beings.

[WritingIsMyReligion]

60. Er, fuck no. There's a difference between being an O'Reilly fan and being a mere Republican.

:wow:

[Brewman_Jax]

61. Don't do it

Most republicans I know have their brains turned off. Add to that I've seen too many posts whining about bad-acting republican/freeper spouses/SO's, don't join that club. You don't need the aggravation.

[philosophie_en_rose]

62. He may be the sole Republican non-douchebag.

I think it's worth talking to him (from a pay phone or nontraceable number ;)) about himself. If he gives you the impression that he's controlling and demeaning- never contact him again.

If he is just wrong about politics, it may be tolerable. But if he's an ass, cut him off.

[Manifestor_of_Light]

64. Don't do it.

You need my button that says:

I ONLY SLEEP WITH DEMOCRATS

[stuntcat]

65. I've tried to keep quiet, not-my-business really..

BUT PLEASE, NO.

[Orsino]

66. Time to update your profile.

Get that particular, if you are looking for someone to grow old with. You might be able to change him into a compassionate human being, but the little you've told us bodes very ill.

You're committed enough to liberalism to be posting here. He's committed enough to list FOX in his profile, and reads O'Reilly. Oil and water, so far.

[alteredstate]

67. No

Just my opinion.

[lies and propaganda]

68. i think it proves the oddness of those sites

that is NUMBER ONE in my book, solely because if i had to have arguments all the time with an OReilly mided person, I'd shoot myself ;)

[bearfan454]

69. HELL NO !

HELL HELL NO !

[Duppers]

81. I'll second that "HELL NO!" nt.

nt

[GirlinContempt]

70. here's an idea

don't ask the internets. I hear they're unreliable.

[BarenakedLady]

71. I would say no...

I married a Republican. I'm sleeping in the basement. You do the math.

Good luck to you though. There are many more Liberals out in that sea. Just cast the net.

[CanuckAmok]

72. You can afford to be more particular.

Even if you were 103, with two wooden legs, steel teeth, a glass eye and chronic halitosis, you could to better than someone who reads O'Reilley.

[Maestro]

73. Why not meet him?

You may be able to show him the light. ;)

[Monk06]

74. Sign up on Skype and call him directly LD for peanuts and suss him out

Nothing is better than voice communication.
You can create a two person forum/newsgroup
without revealing your private numbers.

If he turns out to be iffy you can change
your Skype name and he can't contact you
and your cell and land line numbers remain
private.

Gotta love Skype

[LouisianaLiberal]

75. He's either naive, mean-spirited, or a fool.

You seem like a very nice woman. Avoid the soul-crushing emptiness of the hopelessly misguided, the illogical and the ill-mannered.

And you can be sure of one thing: he will know that he is always right.

[OllieLotte]

76. I think politics on the first few dates is rude.

If he is rude you sould dump him. If the reverse is true, he should dump you. I say meet him and be on your best behavior...I hope you have a wonderful time.

[liberaltrucker]

77. Don't even THINK about it

Those "dimentions(sic) of compatibility" obviously don't include politics.

Run, don't walk!

[dEMOK]

78. The Question is Whether or not You Both Respect Each Others Differences...

Respect being the crucial word.

If either one of you is demeaning -- that's a deal breaker; if not, the game should be afoot.

Also (at his age), chances are that he's not a neocon at heart (although he may have been fooled by them). He's probably more of a traditional conservative (paleocon). These are the very people who are now siding with Democrats in order to bring the Republican party back to it's non-socialist roots.

Ultimately -- you must expose equally your ideals, and your open mindedness to his way of thinking; and give him all the time he needs time to digest.

If he respects your nature (as you respect his) it's all green lights. If he can't accept the differences -- move on with no regrets.

If I must be alone -- I'd rather be by myself, and be useful.

Give this thing the chance it deserves; and remain yourself throughout the process, regardless of your concerns about the outcome.

Much love my friend.

[Robeson]

79. How about...hmmnnn.....no.

[dEMOK]

82. I disagree with your statement but...

...I love your sig line.

"I Know Why the Caged Bird Sings" is in my top 5 -- all time favorite biographies!

[LostInAnomie]

80. I'm starting to doubt your Democratic credentials if you can be matched with a Repuke!

;)

Might as well go on a date. No harm in that. If he turns out to be an asshole you never have to see him again.

[dEMOK]

83. James Carville Seems To Be Happy nt...

[Dukkha]

85. don't think for a second he'll chance

once people pass middle age they are very much set in their own ideology. All the persuasive arguments and logic won't change them.I would not abandon my most sacred beliefs of the chance of finding a mate.

From what I understand eHarmony is pretty expensive. I'd wait to get your money's worth on their networking and people finding promises and not take a chance on the first match that comes along.