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Midlodemocrat Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Feb-03-07 01:07 PM
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Okay, DU, I need some advice.
My across the streeth neighbors are the neighbors from hell. She is a single mom, living with her boyfriend and her two sons and one of the teenage sons' friends.

The teenagers are slugs. They park all over the street, never in the driveway, and drink and get high all day. Okay, so mom is an idiot, but there's more.

The teenagers are making drug deals in the street just about every day. I don't think mom is aware of this, but she is aware of the underage drinking. They leave their empties all over the street, and last night there were a ton in my yard, along with empty cigarette packs.

Which promptly landed back in her yard, but I digress.

Is there a solution to this? Mom won't listen about the teenagers and their loud music and partying, so we have been reduced to calling the cops, but a bunch of us moms really, really want the drug sales to stop, and the teenagers to find somewhere else to go. Is there a way to do this? A practical way?

TIA.
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CaliforniaPeggy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Feb-03-07 01:13 PM
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1. My dear Midlo............
I think the cops are your best option, frankly......

It sounds just awful........

You have my complete sympathies.......:hug:

Good luck!
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Midlodemocrat Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Feb-03-07 01:15 PM
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2. It worries me though.
Because they know, that WE know. We've been staring at the cars to get the license plates of the dealers, so they know.

In fact, the amazing person who cleans my house ran outside today to get the number off the car because it was a different car. :rofl:

I just don't want any retaliation, especially since BabyMidlo plays outside all the time.
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CaliforniaPeggy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Feb-03-07 01:17 PM
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3. I still think the cops are your best choice.......
Unless....

You and the other moms get together, and hire a private eye to get the hard evidence needed to nail these guys..........

But that would cost money....... :shrug:

It might be worth it in the long run, though.....

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Kerrytravelers Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Feb-03-07 01:23 PM
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7. I would agree with this. It's worth the money to hire a professional.
I'm sure the other neighborhood parents would agree and join in. I would if I lived in your neighborhood.
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Kali Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Feb-03-07 01:20 PM
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5. Yeah I would stop doing that - just call when there is activity or problems.
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Midlodemocrat Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Feb-03-07 01:25 PM
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10. Well, in all fairness, we didn't start out trying to the license
plates. We just started noticing when this teenager moved in with mom (after graduating from high school in NJ and having dad send him down here because he couldn't handle him :eyes:) that there was an awful lot of activity; a lot of parties, etc.

My friend who lives next door to them noticed the drug deals about 5 months ago when she was outside teaching the little kids how to double dutch, and since then, we've been trying to catch them in the act. To no avail.
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Kali Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Feb-03-07 01:19 PM
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4. Keep calling the police - and make sure you aren't the only one - have the other neighbors do it too
More wasted lives. Poor kids.
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Katherine Brengle Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Feb-03-07 01:23 PM
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6. Since you have already tried talking to her --
your only practical recourse is the police. If you can get a group of neighbors together and go to them, you might get better results.

Unfortunately, in most cases, something actually has to actively be happening for the police to do much. However, you might be able to get them to keep a close eye on the neighborhood and hopefully they can catch these kids in the act.
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Midlodemocrat Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Feb-03-07 01:24 PM
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9. That's what I am hoping.
The deals go down so quickly, there isn't time to call the police.
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Fleshdancer Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Feb-03-07 01:23 PM
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8. I would call the non-emergency number to the local police dept and....
perhaps you can schedule a meeting between an officer and a few other neighbors and sit down and explain the situation and see what your options are. Good luck with this and keep us posted. This situation really sucks.
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Midlodemocrat Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Feb-03-07 01:27 PM
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11. One of my friends is a cop in this county and he says that
the only thing we can do is to call and let the cops try to catch them in the act.

There just isn't enough manpower to station a cop outside their house 24/7.

I'm so pissed at the mom though, she has a younger son and she needs to be protecting him from this. The younger son hates the situation so much that he spends all his time in his bedroom because he can't stand the smoke. That's not right. Not at all.
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Maine-ah Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Feb-03-07 01:34 PM
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18. try DHS? maybe they would have some answers for you
also, the parenting forum too.

good luck!
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Kali Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Feb-03-07 01:34 PM
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19. Child protective services?
Abuse going on there.
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Fleshdancer Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Feb-03-07 01:37 PM
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20. I wouldn't rely on just the advice of that one friend....
I am 99% positive that the narcotics division in your area would be interested in knowing that drug deals were occuring across the street from you and mere yards away from where children play. I don't expect a cop to be placed outside 24/7 but if a strong relationship isn't established between your community and the local police force, this situation is only going to get worse.
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Joey Liberal Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Feb-03-07 01:27 PM
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12. Start a Neighborhood Watch
Then get a guard dog to protect your family. I'm partial to Pit Bull's, but a German Shepard or a Mastiff will do the trick. Also, contact your Chief of Police, City Manager, Mayor and city council person (all of your neighbors should do the same) about the problem.
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Midlodemocrat Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Feb-03-07 01:29 PM
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13. We have one.
but, as you can see, it isn't really working. I do have two dogs, a dachshund and a shih tzu, but I'm thinking the most they could do is lick someone to death.
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HarukaTheTrophyWife Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Feb-03-07 01:30 PM
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14. Those aren't dogs.
They're kickballs.

:hide:
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Midlodemocrat Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Feb-03-07 01:31 PM
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15. HAHAHA.
Not funny. :grr:
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HarukaTheTrophyWife Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Feb-03-07 01:32 PM
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16. Okay, okay. I apologize.
They're chew toys for my cats.

:hide:
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Midlodemocrat Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Feb-03-07 01:33 PM
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17. OMG.
My poor little puppies.

:rofl:
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Joey Liberal Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Feb-03-07 01:41 PM
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21. Those are nice little dogs, but
you need a dog that can really protect you! I hope it all works out for you!
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Whoa_Nelly Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Feb-03-07 01:47 PM
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22. Since the cops can't get the manpower to act quickly enough
Edited on Sat Feb-03-07 01:48 PM by Whoa_Nelly
and apparently, can't be bothered with license plate numbers, call the DA, the Assistant DA, and do it several times. If this were going on in my neighborhood, I would not tolerate it one minute.

Good luck in getting things changed.

Oh! And you can anonymously call the school this kid attends. Tell'em to check his locker. :evilgrin:
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tigereye Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Feb-03-07 04:07 PM
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23. pictures?
maybe that would get the cops' attention?

Assuming you can get them without endangering yourselves....


It's always hard when parents can't see what is right under their noses.
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Midlodemocrat Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Feb-03-07 04:12 PM
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24. Update: For those who might be interested.
I was getting a latte at the neighborhood coffee place and there is a police station next door. There was a nice young policeman sitting in his patrol car in the parking lot filling out his reports or whatever it is that they report.

I pulled up, rolled down my window, explained everything and he said that he would call it in to increase the police presence on the street. I told him when the deals were going down and he said they would possibly stake someone at the corner!

I just want this to go away. I don't relish having drug deals made practically at my mailbox.
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YDogg Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Feb-03-07 04:55 PM
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25. Sounds like a positive step.
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