Could you marry someone if you hadn't at least seen them naked first?

[LostInAnomie]

Poll question: Could you marry someone if you hadn't at least seen them naked first?

An earlier thread about people saving themselves for marriage made me think of this. Even if you were set on saving yourself for marriage, wouldn't you at least want to inspect the goods before you sign on for the long haul? I for one would want to at least make sure that I was satisfied with what I was signing up for, and make sure that there's nothing wrong with the plumbing.

What do you think?

[Redstone]

1. Yes, at least to make sure there were no "I hate anyone named Redstone" tattoos.

Redstone

[liberaldemocrat7]

44. No, I don't need to see a woman naked. If she looks good in a bikini that appears good enough.

:)

[Bucky]

47. Setting yourself up for a surprise there, my friend

I've seen enough episodes of Jerry Springer to know what a trannie means when she says she plays "tuckies".

[liberaldemocrat7]

49. I just made a joke of it.

Besides it holds accurate as far as seeing a woman's body without having her take her clothes off. Since I believe in nonmarital sex I would find out anyway. Also women have natural looking faces whereas the others have a face that appears to betray their gender.

[LeftyMom]

2. I think marrying somebody without living with them for some time is stupid.

Likewise, committing to have sex with only one person for the rest of our life is pretty dumb if you don't know that they've got what you want sexually.

Otherwise, it's a bit like buying a house because it looks cute from the curb- you have no clue what you're getting and it's pure luck if you'll love it or hate it.

[Porcupine]

16. Actually you have to go camping first. In bad weather.

You never know if you really want to marry somebody until you are trapped in a three man tent for three days in pouring rain and there are no porta-potties.

Marraige is NOT for wimps.

[LeftyMom]

22. I broke up with somebody after a camping trip

Being out in the middle of nowhere for a weekend told me just how much his whining bugged the shit out of me.

[Zookeeper]

27. Actually, my DH and I camped on the north side of....

the Grand Canyon, during rainy 33 degree (32 degree would have been better). We had different ideas of what the best course of action is when you wake up in a puddle of icy cold rain water at 5:00 am.

Somehow, we survived. Which told us something about each other's level of commitment... :+

[Porcupine]

39. See, now THAT'S commitment.

because there is NO good course of action when you wake up in a puddle at 5 am and it's just about freezing. Blaming the other person for everything is all too easy in these situations and MUST be avoided. (especially if they actually screwed up)

[Zookeeper]

42. LOL!

You are a very wise Porcupine...;-)

[CaliforniaPeggy]

3. My dear LostInAnomie!

Oh really now!

You do not have to see someone naked before you marry them!

It doesn't hurt, of course.......

But it isn't a requirement!

Lots of characteristics can be ascertained by touch alone, you know! :evilgrin:

[LostInAnomie]

4. Oh hush, you tease!

;-)

[idgiehkt]

67. I agree with this

at least feel them up to make sure the parts are there. :evilgrin:

[Madrone]

5. YES.

Absolutely, even.

[GOPisEvil]

11. Agreed!

Wholeheartedly. :)

[Oeditpus Rex]

6. Yup

You don't marry "the goods."

[Countdown_3_2_1]

7. By the time it came to marriage...

If a relationship lasts that long, We would all be so much in love it wouldn't matter what our partners look like.

[MissMillie]

59. I like this sentiment

very much

[Guava Jelly]

8. I want to know my partner well before i commit to marriage

Well includes the goodies!! :)

[YellowRubberDuckie]

9. I'm a strong believer in cohabitation PRIOR to marriage.

[La Lioness Priyanka]

10. no. i wouldnt marry someone if i hadnt known them a while.

and i dont really like to wait.

[AirmensMom]

12. Yes.

And I'm glad I did. There is such thing as marrying for love ... Do people still do that? :shrug:

[Esra Star]

75. Some people think they do, but it's the endorphins n/t

[XemaSab]

13. It's less about seeing them naked than knowing if you're "compatible"

Someone might be a great guy and be a total dud, or a pervert, or both. :P

[Oeditpus Rex]

14. 'Compatibility' can be determined by talking

That is, if you know what to talk about, and how. :evilgrin:

[XemaSab]

17. Seriously

I have dated guys who I had NO physical chemistry with, and guys who were HOT, and it has little to do with conversational skills. :P

[Oeditpus Rex]

19. Sure you're doin' it right?

:popcorn:

[XemaSab]

20. No

:popcorn:

[billyskank]

52. Can you get an adapter?

:shrug:

[XemaSab]

61. .

:o

[Digit]

15. Do you buy a car without test driving it first?

It may not need to be in perfect condition, but I like a smooth ride....
No leaking fluids
Stops when I ask it to
...and very responsive..

;-)

[Oeditpus Rex]

23. Good points to remember

if I ever decide to marry a machine.

[Digit]

54. It was written with a woman's perspective in mind...n/t

[DerekG]

18. Doesn't matter. How many people look good naked anyway? 7 percent?

If you're not a fat, rolly baby or a decidely less-fat underwear model, chances are you probably look better with clothes on.

I'm not expecting to have a bride who looks like Monica Bellucci, so I'd be content with a nice, warm smile.

[Katherine Brengle]

31. Good point lol - but I looked a lot better nekkid before getting married and

procreating lol.

So maybe it helped ;).

[DerekG]

36. Naah...

Judging by your choice of avatar, you're groovy enough to have anyone at "hello."

[Katherine Brengle]

40. :blush:

:evilgrin:

[HEyHEY]

21. Meh, you've seen one mail order bride, you've seen em all

[crim son]

24. It wouldn't matter to me.

Neither face nor figure. Everything is in the eyes and the kiss.

[leeroysphitz]

25. I don't even like to TALK to people I haven't seen naked...

[NewWaveChick1981]

26. Absolutely not...

:hi: I have to make sure they don't look like a serial killer naked. :rofl:

[Oeditpus Rex]

32. What's a nekkid serial killer look like?

Does he have an ax for...

!!!

:scared:



:hide::yoiks:

[NewWaveChick1981]

33. I'd know it if I saw it...

:yoiks: :rofl: :P :hi:

[Oeditpus Rex]

35. Yeah, but

would you see it in time? :scared:

[NewWaveChick1981]

70. I'll bet he'd have a killer body...

:rofl: Bada-bing! :P

[WritingIsMyReligion]

28. I'd probably want to do a recon mission first.

Scout out the territory with hands. :P

No sex, though. (REALLY! I MEAN IT!11! :)) Not without serious STD and AIDS testing first, in addition to all the protection in the act itself.

[Oeditpus Rex]

34. Got somethin' for ya

[WritingIsMyReligion]

37. What the hell is that?

Sword? Shield? Knight? Armor? Protection?

:P

[Oeditpus Rex]

38. Well, you did say

"all the protection."

[wildhorses]

29. i guess i could but,

i wouldn't want to:P

[SPKrazy]

41. Okay, Check Your PM

I'll send some nekkid pics

then we can get hitched

;)

[wildhorses]

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[SPKrazy]

78. Didn't You Get Them?

I sent them once

I'll send them again...

:rofl:




:evilgrin:

[wildhorses]

79. you are such a tease--

i....am .....still.....waiting....http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=01E7UrUbN9U

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[The Velveteen Ocelot]

30. Theoretically, yes.

But I'm afraid that if I were seen naked I'd have no chance of getting married.

[bridgit]

43. you mean like some mail order bride, or chattel...cause i'm thinking no...

[SeattleGirl]

45. A more important piece of info for me would be to find out where

sex/intimacy was on their scale of "things that are important in life."

Believe me, this is far more important than what a person looked like sans clothing.

[donheld]

46. I never saw John Kennedy Jr naked

but I'm sure i'd have married him anyway. :evilgrin:

[kwassa]

62. but would you fly with him?

Sorry, utterly tasteless of me.

[Manifestor_of_Light]

48. Nope

I would have to check out the goods to see if his "goods" were too big or too small to fit with my "goods". (trying not to get this thread locked). Especially if they were too big!!!
Some things are physically impossible to fit together, so to speak.

[Porcupine]

53. Yah, some people don't like it....

when certain things "go bump" in the night. Like the man said.....if the glove don't fit you must, uh, quit.

[chknltl]

50. Tell ya what, send me her nekkid photos

and if you thought that was funny
you might be a redneck

If you have more than one Billy the Talking Bass
you might be a redneck

If you bring a six pack of canned bud to a funeral
and don't share
you might be.......

[Evoman]

51. Pfft...I would never marry someone I hadn't seen naked AND slept with.

You kidding...hell, it somebody didn't sleep with me after a MONTH of dating, I'd leave.

[xchrom]

55. what is this ''waiting'' you speak of?

and since i'm queen of sex in the back of a car -- you certainly DON'T have to get all nekkid to get down.

[MissMillie]

56. For the most part

all "goods" look the same

I imagine seeing someone in a swimsuit would be enough to get a sense of what their physique is like.

[azmouse]

57. After almost 20 yrs of marriage

I can say that the way a body looks when it's young isn't the way it looks 20 yrs later.

No, I wouldn't worry about the way 'the goods' look because it'll all change with time anyway.

[dysfunctional press]

58. don't buy the cow until you taste the milk...

has always been my credo.

[HarukaTheTrophyWife]

60. No. Of course, I'd never marry someone without sleeping with them first.

I also can't get married, so it's really all a moot point.

[kwassa]

63. Only in the unlikely event that we had lots of sex with our clothes on.

[Strawman]

64. I dunno. I just can't imagine not seeing them naked first

Or making them wait to hit this. That would be like torture. :P

[skypilot]

65. I'd at least have to see...

...the feet. I can work around alot of other "flaws" if the person has nice feet. That's just me.

[Sequoia]

66. I remember reading about Jessamyn West's husband

who did that before they got married. This was years ago (not in this link). I do know that I read her books back in junior high. Great, great writer.


http://www.jessamyn.com/jessamyn/jess.html

[u4ic]

68. I'm not saving myself for marriage

nor do I plan to do so; it's a moot point.

I do think sexual compatibility is important.

However, I'm not into 'meat inspection'. A person comes as a package, and if someone's 'goods' are what the relationship hinges on, then the relationship is in a sorry state...

[Beer Snob-50]

69. I would want to make sure they had the right plumbing. nt

[MrSlayer]

72. I wouldn't marry someone without knowing if we were sexually compatible.

I have some needs beyond missionary coitus that I would be greatly disappointed to not have met. Merely seeing the person in the nude isn't quite enough.

[Yavin4]

73. What If She Had A Tatoo on Her Inner Thigh Saying, "Rush Limbaugh Was Here."

Then what?!

[bigwillq]

74. I would want to know!

:evilgrin:

[WCGreen]

76. Two words.... Madam Butterfly.....

[Left Is Write]

77. I don't know, because it was never an issue.